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Old 12th December 2003, 8:13 PM   #1
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Really strange!

hey, i know that everybody being dumped hurts but recently my gf of 9m told me she needed space. i understood because i know that she has so much pressure in her life, + she told me not to worry about us,we'll be fine.

just so you know, im 22 and she's 21, she finished a long relationship couple of months before we got togethar, and she told me about 2 m into our relationship that she had married him to keep him in the country and then he started treating her really badly.

she thought i'd dump her but at that stage i really loved her, i spent the next few months showing her how she should be treated. i treated her like a princess and she made it obvious that ous love life was great.

then outta the blue she does this, and gradually starts treting me worse and worse. anybody relate to this
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Old 12th December 2003, 8:35 PM   #2
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by the way i suppose i should let ya know that up until about two days before she was telling me how much she loved me and that if she ever lost me it would break her heart into pieces.

i got on really well with her family too.
she works with me and sits just a couple ofdesks away from me.
we were even trying for a baby and talkin about marriage before all this.

i am sooooo confused and really need some advice............
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Old 12th December 2003, 8:37 PM   #3
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It seems like she has no consideration of your feelings. How is she supposed to know that you'll be fine? People deserve to be treated right by their partner.
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Old 12th December 2003, 8:38 PM   #4
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Whoa! If she love you enough to marry you, how could she change her mind so fast? Maybe there was something you didnt notice all along.
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Old 12th December 2003, 9:21 PM   #5
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we were even tryin for a baby, thank god that didnt work out!
she has just turned into such a cold and heartless person so quickly.
as far as im concerned the girl i loved is dead to me now.
her ex really treated her like crap and she was with him three years,
i was always paying her compliments and buying her nice things,
about a month before this she was tellin me how she had her whole life planned out with me. im lost!!!!!!!!
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Old 12th December 2003, 10:25 PM   #6
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what do you want from this board? We don't know her. Nobody can explain this. If she's gone, then you are going to have to deal with it. Spend time with friends and family. Indulge in hobbies. Go out. Write a journal. There's nothing else that can be done here. Read the board - this has happened to tons of people on the forum. So you have to move on.
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Old 13th December 2003, 12:18 AM   #7
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she sounds like a maneater....... be thankful your seeing this now and not if you guys were to be married... if she did this now.... she'd do it when you were married as well.... i agree with moimeme..... put her and keep her in the past now, move on, be with friends and family and i wouldnt bother trying to figure her out..... shes not worth the hurt for you. Good luck
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Old 17th December 2003, 10:17 PM   #8
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hey,
just thought i would let ya know that i magically got over her.
i have recently been seeing one of the best looking girls in work and its really givin me a confidence booster.
i know it might not be forever but for now its got me a lot happier and i know my ex knows about this and is probably sick.
btw i am not doin this to make my ex jealous, it just happened and has got my self esteem at max.......
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