Here are some links relevant to reconciliations, some specifically geared toward divorce and the psychology of a recently divorced person,which shoud also apply to long term relationships.
If you have recently broken up with someone and the relationship was longer than 3 months or so and you are hoping for a reconciliation, these may be helpful to you.
This addresses the four stages of divorce. You can find these better detailed in a book called the Divorce Sourcebook. Goto the library or bookstore and find it. Read chapter 8 about dating after divorce. That is what the recently divorced person is going thru. This link is a bit negative about reconciliation, but in many cases, unless you have prior history with the divorced, you are probably going to end up being the rebound transistion person.
http://www.canoe.ca/LifewiseLiving01...ting2-par.html
This is a often advertised downloadable (for a fee) e-book. The samples are free and there are some interesting things in there:
http://www.stopyourdivorce.com/ds/samples.htm
Midori posted an excellent synopsis here on how to approach someone who dumped you after a long relationship. Read this and pay close attention to it. This is not the time to be pushing your ex. Understand that if your ex was recently divorced/separated that he/she is going thru alot of internal turmoil and you may not be able to do anything to prevent a breakup or reconcile one. That decision has to come from him/her.
http://www.loveshack.org/forums/show...029#post125029
I really like the analogy to reading a book posted here:
http://www.divorcecentral.com/forums...ges/10553.html
Recovery advice:
http://groups.google.com/groups?selm...&output=gplain
How to try to reconcile by not pushing your luck:
http://www.loveshack.org/forums/show...734#post127734
Rebound or Hope?
http://content.health.msn.com/conten...1674_51841.htm
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