[burton]

Ok. I'll make this quick. I dated my first love for three years, we had sex together for the first time, experienced everything for the first time, all of that good stuff. Then about 2 and a half years into our relationship we went to college together. We both moved into residence. But, his course didn't start til later that month, so he went back to his parents for the time being. Anyways, I stayed at residence, and met a guy, long story short, I broke up with my b/f. Then me and this new guy fooled around for a while, but it didn't last.

My ex boyfriend of 2.5 years moved back into residence and we kinda hooked up for a bit, but i just couldn't do it,it was way too soon, so we called it quits. My ex and I weren't exactly on the best terms, and I didn't exactly do things I am proud of. So he had or has a little resentment towards me. Anyways, I then met my present boyfriend whom i have been dating for about 10 months, and i am now living with him.
Recently, i have been talking to my ex boyfriend on msn, and i am feeling some new emotions for him, and I THINK he is as well. He has got a girlfriend now. My question, how do i know whether or not, my ex wants to get back with me. And if he does, should i get back with him. P.S my boyfriend now and I get along ok, but it has been pretty bumpy, and i can't stop thinking of my ex

Any suggestions

Thanx, Burton

[LauraD]

I know how it feels to think about the what-ifs concerning the first love.

I don't think you should rush into another makeup with him. If he has a girlfriend, you ought to give him space. Your current relationship really has nothing to do with your ex. If you are unhappy, end it--whether or not you have the ex waiting in the wings.

Sometimes the best thing in the world is to take a breather and be SINGLE for awhile. How better to begin to see things clearly again? That's what I need to do.

[dlb311]

I agree you should not lead someone else on if you know its wont work in the long wrong. Its not fair to the other person or yourself.

I think maybe you should be friends with your ex just hang and do fun stuff and see if its there. And if it is then see. But remember he has a girlfriend so maybe you should wait to see how it goes before another person gets hurt. If you want your ex back and no longe want the current break things off and move out and then be friends with your ex and see where it leads you. It could work out in the end but you will always and he will always wondering if you ruined a relationship with someone what would have happened. So just be friends first.

Good luck!

[princess75]

Best thing is for you to be alone right now. Think why are you in a relationship at all? Do you feel lonely inside?

Try to figure what you want in life, if you actually love any of the two or your ego is just being boosted.

Then decide. Once you are alone and good with yourself, and not confused then you will see things more clearly.

I would mantain friendship with both of them, ex bf and actualy bf and things will settle in place. That is if both

of them are willing too. Also, think that you might have idealized your ex bf, he is not anymore what he used to

be nor are you.