[missindependent01]

My mom hates my boyfriend. Well one of the reasons is because my mom dated my boyfriend's uncle when she was little, and now she thinks all of his family is bad news. And im sure she has a reason for thinking that, but this is MY life. And now that my mom hates him, she has gotten the rest of the family to be not-to-fond of him either. I love him more than anything else in the world, and i could never part with him, but i hate to upset my family. How am i supposed to convince her that he's not a bad guy?

[Thinkalot]

Very hard to do. Give it time. She may come to see for herself that he is a good guy. Certainly try and calmly explain your feelings to her, and the way you see him, but in a nice non threatening manner, without accusations. If that doesn't work, step back. It's her issue not yours. I can sympathise because I am very close to my Mum, and she did not get on with my bf for quite some time. They had a big blow up over something. I was mad with them both, and caught in the middle, and pushed them both to be friends. I cried and got upset and it didn't help. In the end, mum came round because she could see how much I love him, and didn't want to be left out. They are friends now. So there's hope.

[Sunrain]

I agree with thinkalot. I had a few boyfriends my dad did not like when I was younger. The more my dad disliked them the more I liked them. As long as the guy is good for you and treats you right then you can't worry about what your mother thinks. You can only try so much to show her he is a good guy and good for you. But you cannot make her like him, she has to do that on her own and it may take time or she may never like him. I don't know. It's hard for you and sad that this is happening when you want things to go right, I know. Hope things will work out as you want them to.

[Melinda]

You're mum sounds like she's still living in the past, since she's acting like the child she was when she dated his uncle...she should know that your bf is not your uncle...

Your bf who you love dearly doesn't deserve to be treated this way, and breaking up with him for the sake of your mum would only be punishing him and telling him you agree with your mum that he's a bad person because of whatever his uncle did to your mum!

You can't let your family decide what makes you happy or who you're to love in life, if it's not him, it'll be someone or something else she'll want you to get rid of! So don't start now...or she'll control your relationships and life forever...

Goodluck!