[Soop]

i am not particularly shy anymore (although i used to be back in HS), i am at college now and am having a few probs here and there, i was hoping some of you guys could give me your 'professional' opinions on the matter's

i have noticed that when ever i am even near to a girl i instantly (although subconsciously) ever face the wall (if there is a wall near to me of course) or face the ground and its really starting to bug me. I just can't understand why i can't look at females at all.. if a female is walking in front of me and she turns around to look at me i'd at the same time look away so she can't see my fact properly.. thats probably shyness and such.. it really bugs me that i do that and no matter what i can't stop it.. i know i'll probably get lol'ed at for saying this.. but whenever a girl looks at me i feel as my eyes are stinging and are about to water + my face feels as its about to go red hot.

Another problem is sometimes when i sit down in class and a girl is either sitting next to me or facing me (depending on the layout of chairs) i'd ALWAYS look away from her/anyone, have my arms crossed and probably looking like Mr.T on steroids.

i don't want to always be like that.. i would like it that i can respect myself enough for me to CONFIDENTIALLY look at her when/if a girl looks at me instead of showing any sort of shame for myself (i do like the person who i am, at least enough not to really hate myself). I don't want to change myself beyond who i am though, because eventually if i do get in a relationship she'll see the 'me' that i am masking.. in a case of relationship i want her to like ME not a fake me.

i guess i am really asking for advice.. if a girl looks at me or talks to me what should be my state of mind? plus if a girl talks to me i tend to talk way to fast and make mistakes.. surely theres something i can do to change this?

Thanks for reading ppl, you deserve a cookie with milk if you read it all

Soop

p.s sorry if everything didn't make sense.. i am not too good at writing feelings down.

[Arabess]

It sounds to me as though you have a 'lack of confidence' problem. I'm sure there are lots of websites you could read thru which address this issue. I'm really not sure if it's something you could tackle yourself or if you may need some counseling or therapy exercises to help you thru it.

Maybe someone else on here has faced the same sort of feelings and will be able to give you more in depth suggestions.

I realize that would be really tough to live with.

Good Luck!!!!!!

[yes]

just make a deal with yourself - talk to a girl every single day, and LOOK at the girl (force yourself). it may be hard for a while, but it's bound to get better.

is there smth in particular you dislike about yourself that you're afraid of showing?? if not, open up and chat w/ them!

have fun,
-yes