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Old 20th November 2003, 10:44 AM   #1
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Red face Ex boyfriend cheated, asking for space now he won't stop calling.

Hi, last month I posted a thread on the infidelity forum and I must say with all the advices I got from everyone it had help me release some of my hurt and bitterness and was able to concentrate on myself a little.Now I am back to square one ..Because my ex won't stop calling me and leaving me messages telling me he misses and love me so much and he doesn't want me out of his life. Also, telling me that his mother and I are the most important person to him. He know that right now, he can't give me 100% of himself that is why we can't stay together as boyfriend and girlfriend..But, he still want me in his life because I am his best friend so he say;-(. He doesn't understand that right now, I can't be his friend and pretend that nothing had happen..He doesn't realize that what he did was wrong..I mean he think that there is nothing wrong with taken picture of girls boob and you know what is consider wrong..Who in this world that have a girlfriend does that? It's been a week that I haven't spoken to him but he been calling me leaving me messages on my cell and work phone..I been trying so hard not to pick up the phone and call him..But, I don't know how much longer I can keep myself from doing it..I miss him so much and want to keep to keep the friendship...Cause, I know that I can never go back with him to being a g/f-b/f thing because I would never be able to trust him again..

Let me give you a brief info on my situation..On the day of our 2 year anniversary and the day after I got my abortion done...I found naked picture of girls on my ex camera phone. And let me just say that this is not the first time I find picture like this..Because I love him so much I gave him so many chances and stay in the relationship hoping that he will change if he love me the same...Well, what I hope to change never did and again I caught him.........He admitted himself that he screw-up in the head somewhere, that he know what he did was wrong but can't stop himself from doing those immortal stuff..But, he always assure me that nothing physcial had happen, because those kind of girl are disgusting and taken their picture was just a fun thing to show to friend...

Let me ask all the gentlemen and Lady how do you feel bout this situation? Any suggesstion or advices is greatly appreciated..Thanks
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Old 20th November 2003, 11:09 AM   #2
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Some people wise up after awhile and realize that they made a huge mistake. Your boyfriend concluded that you are the best of the best of the girls he has been screwing. It probably took a few weeks or months, but it hit him!

What ever fun he was having didn't last too long. he basically lost sight of the big picture for the quick reward. I will make him suffer, then suffer some more.

This is coming from a guy! Your boy friend dished out bad karma. What goes around comes back around threefold!

The grass is never greener on the other side espicially if he cheatred or lied to you!

Make him suffer!
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Old 20th November 2003, 12:18 PM   #3
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I can certainly understand why you would not want a relationship with this self-proclaimed "immoral screw-up."

But what has he even done to earn your friendship?

Is this fool someone you would even want to hang out with??

I'm with Max. Let him beg and grovel. You have much better things in store for your future. Time to clean out the crap and make room in your life for partners and friends who are more deserving of your time and effort.
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Old 20th November 2003, 2:07 PM   #4
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Trying very hard not to call him

Thanks guys for your advices..I think that you guys are definitely right..Why is it that men always does that..When you give 100% of your self to them they take advantage of it ....Now, that you don't want to bother and stay any longer they come begging back.....
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Old 15th July 2004, 8:07 AM   #5
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Hey what's up this is MorbidDreams from lousiana and i'm 21years old, my ex boyfriend just came back intown from being gone for an few month's. Now that he's back we still friends the reason we broke up because he had someone else on side and me and her, found out about eachother but i still love him no matter what i wish i could be back with him but i realize that we can only be friend's for now. My mom think's i should have nothing to do with him and that he shouldn't even call me and when he does call me she said i have an choice, i can either quit being friend's with him or she is kiking me out and calling the law on him.



What do you do when you love someone so much as an friend, and much more and yall been through so much hell to make yall's realtionship work and yall's friendship work. But you'r mom/friend's/relltive's doesn't want you having anything to do with him?



PS, DONT KNOW IF ANYONE IS FROM LOUSIANA U.S.A. BUT I WAS JUST WONDERING, IF AND IS THERE ANYTHING SHE CAN DO ABOUT HIM CALLING ME JUST AS FRIEND'S. NOT PRANK CALLING OR HARRASING US. JUST CALL'S AS A FRIEND SO WE CAN TALK. IS THERE ANYTHING SHE CAN DO ABOUT IT???????????

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