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church. Yes, this might sound pretty funny to some, but there's this girl at my church, and I think she's just plain amazing. I don't even know her name, and the fact that is church makes me feel pretty weird walking up to her to talk and ask her out.
I've caught her looking in my direction, as well as she's caught me looking. She's pulled the common fixing her hair and switching seats around, I guess so that I can get a better look at her, since the seat changes are in my favor to look.
Just to give you all an idea, I'm in my early 20s, and she's probably around there as well. I'm not bad looking, and I'm pretty confident, it's just the whole church idea, on top of not knowing how weird would it be to walk up to someone just like that and ask them out to lunch.
Any advice would be helpful. It sucks to have to wait every sunday to see her, IF she goes to church that week.
just approach her before or after the service, and talk about the service or anything really, and just be friendly...
you could wait to ask her out until you know her better, but if you wanna jump the gun then just straight up ask her, just try to get her alone, or even just you two in the conversation
Originally posted by VZWOP
church. Yes, this might sound pretty funny to some, but there's this girl at my church, and I think she's just plain amazing. I don't even know her name, and the fact that is church makes me feel pretty weird walking up to her to talk and ask her out.
I've caught her looking in my direction, as well as she's caught me looking. She's pulled the common fixing her hair and switching seats around, I guess so that I can get a better look at her, since the seat changes are in my favor to look.
Just to give you all an idea, I'm in my early 20s, and she's probably around there as well. I'm not bad looking, and I'm pretty confident, it's just the whole church idea, on top of not knowing how weird would it be to walk up to someone just like that and ask them out to lunch.
Any advice would be helpful. It sucks to have to wait every sunday to see her, IF she goes to church that week.
Hay you!
Well i think for a start you should stop worrying about the church thing its getting bored.
You like her and she likes you for a fact . Now go and ask her for lunch and stop thinking its not right cause its in a church. God wont punish you for asking a person on a date in the church he would be glad that two people come togther whom likes each other dont you think?
So come on get over it and make your move cause girls dont wait forever you know, if your gonne take that long to make a move she's gonne think you dont really like her.
So put your church clothes on this sunday and go and do your thing.
If you feel so bad about the church thing then find out whats her number through somebody and phone her or sms her anything but dont wait too long.
VZWOP, I was in your situation many years ago. I waited until the service was over, walked up to her outside the church and told her that I had seen her a number of times. I asked her to go for some coffee and we sat and talked for awhile. She was flattered. Although nothing came of it (she was in a relationship), we had a nice time together and I never had to wonder "what if?"
that is church makes me feel pretty weird walking up to her to talk and ask her out
This is sweet of you, but it's not as though you're going to walk up to her and ask her to have sex right there in the church I don't think God, the ministers/priests, or anybody else would be offended if a young man asked a young lady for coffee from inside church walls or even outside on the sidewalk. Good luck!
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I don't think God, the ministers/priests, or anybody else would be offended if a young man asked a young lady for coffee from inside church walls or even outside on the sidewalk. Good luck!
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