Please help. I cheated and lied. I need to earn her trust back. What can I do.

debo45 · 19th November 2003, 9:35 PM

Please help me.

My girlfriend and I have been together since March. We have had lots of ups and downs. But I am very much in love with this girl.

A few weeks ago we had a big fight and a break up. That night I went out with one of my friends, got wasted and ending up taking a girl home and sleeping with her. The next day I went back to my girlfriend and made up with her. We had the best three weeks we have ever had. We went house shopping and became closer than we have ever been.

She never found out about the one night stand. The one night stand girl had been calling me but I lied to my girlfriend about who she was. Sunday morning my girlfriend used my cell phone to call a friend and saw her number in my phone. She called the number and found out who she was.

I spilled my guts, told her the whole story, and now she hates me. She demanded I get tested for std's. Which I have done, and she is now saying we have no chance of getting back together.

I lied, and cheated. But, I have learned my lesson. I promised her I would never lie again. But, of course those are just words and she doesn't trust me.

What can I do to earn her trust. All her friends, and family hate me. I love her so much and I want her back in the worst way.

Please help me.

moimeme · 19th November 2003, 9:38 PM

This is how you learn life's lessons. You do something you know you shouldn't and take the consequences. It is rare that you can put the genie back in a bottle. I'm afraid your cause is lost and you've learned something the hard way. The good thing is that your story may serve as a cautionary tale to others.

Stinks, but that's life.

lostforwords · 19th November 2003, 9:44 PM

pffftttttttt what the heck is that? dood your cause is not lost...... go to counselling offer her time and support....... be a loving boyfriend...... i know you came here for advice and support, and remember that each one of us has our own thoughts and opinions on this. some of us are actually sincere and caring people.

moimeme · 19th November 2003, 9:46 PM

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some of us are actually sincere and caring people

Enough with the personal attacks.

lostforwords · 19th November 2003, 9:57 PM

actually moimeme it is not an attack... and im sorry you percieved it that way..... im merely wanting the poster to see that he has all advice from all sides.... i just dont want him to think that the message your sending him is a generalization of LS'ers alike.... as well im sure your a kind and sincere person, i just dont want him to feel yoru not from what you posted. again sorry you misconstrued it that way.... nothing personal against you....

moimeme · 19th November 2003, 10:02 PM

He will get plenty of opinions from LS posters and will make his own decision who is 'caring' and who is not.

lostforwords · 19th November 2003, 10:37 PM

sorry if i feel my opinion can count as well.... again im merely toopid!!

crazyglue03 · 19th November 2003, 10:42 PM

I came on real quick to see what's been going on since I got some Pecan Pie. And I must say - WOW! Why doesn't everyone just take a deep breath or 100 and calm down and get back to what's the real issue at hand?
Or at least send pm's. I like the both of you very much, and I hate to see people bickering like this.

Sorry to post this on your thread Debo.

My advice to you is that it will be extremely difficult to win her trust back. You may have lost the battle for that. She will always have that doubt in her head from what has happened in the past. You can spend forever making it up to her, and if she loves you, then maybe she will let you prove it to her.

Good luck!

lostforwords · 19th November 2003, 10:53 PM

LOL... actually your right this should be for pm.... however..... this will be most likely deleted after abit from the mods......