[helmatt]

I am 23 years old, I've been together for 3 years and just recently ask my girlfriend to marry me. We've been engaged now for 3 months and since then my feelings for her have been changing. We've been arguing lately about her lack of communication, her not wanting sex, and finances. These are 3 big issues that make a marriage work and I'm not seeing it in our relationship. I thought that by committing myself to her she would open up about some of these issues but every time I want to talk about US she tells me there is nothing to talk about.

I feel that I am being used, I pay the bills, clean the house and try to make her feel as comfortable as possible. I feel that I need more emotional reinforcement from her and she is either unwilling or incapable of giving it to me.

Am I just getting cold feet and trying to make problems so I can feel more justified in leaving? I don't want to have these issues in our marriage, is it even worth working on? I can't make this relationship work by myself and it seems I am the only one trying and willing to.