I love you....(silence)

Natalie · 29th October 2003, 11:19 AM

Don't you hate it when you say "I love you" and don't get a response back? Or is it me? Do I say it too much? ...hmm...approx. 10 times a day....

Should I control myself and stop saying it to him so often, and only on those special ocassions? Gosh...I have so much love for this guy, there's not enough words to say it and not even the 100th "I love you" is enough for me to tell him so. Additional to that, it also shows in my actions. I can just basically drop everything to just be in the presence of this guy...just to hug him, just to smell him, just to hold his hand...... And it's for 9 months now and we've had big downs and lots of ups too, but I have stuck to him and love him even more. I just can't help it ok...and if he's reading this now.....

"My baby Angel, I love you, love you, love you...."

You appreciated opinion pls. "Am I cuckoo...or getting there?" Should I replace those little "I love yous" for a big one on special occassions? If my brains are ok.....Should I be more concerned about his love for me? How should I handle this? .... Should I tell him that it bothers me? Should I stop saying it? Should I just stop being paranoid about this?

quankanne · 29th October 2003, 11:55 AM

best person to talk to is your SO, and ask if it bothers him hearing "I love you" as often as he does. Maybe he thinks it's sweet, but is shy about saying it so often himself. Or maybe he stays quiet because he doesn't see that he's worthy of your love. Or, maybe he feels secure in your love for him, and his for you, that he doesn't say it back as often. there's a variety of reasons, but he's the only one who can tell you for sure.

cindy0039 · 29th October 2003, 2:00 PM

Does he tell you that he loves you EVER? I was just wondering if this is a totally one-sided thing. Either way, I think you should tone it down a bit. Ten times a day is quite a lot.

UCFKevin · 29th October 2003, 5:12 PM

Ah, not really. Depends on the context. If it's like a serious "I deeply love you" or just a fun "I love you!" after a joke or something or whatever, I dunno, I'm a moron nevermind.

But I wouldn't mind hearing it that much.

bicyclejunk · 29th October 2003, 5:25 PM

I find it werid when i hear someone talking on the phone to their wife,Girlfriend,Husband,Boyfriend and it's just :" okay, gotta go, bye."

It bugs me, And i'm a guy, when i say I love you to my girl and she doesn't answer me back. I think after a while, the longer you've been with a lover, for some people, the effect of I LOVE YOU wears off. Not me though. I can't tell my girl enough, how much i love her.
I say it all the time.

UCFKevin · 29th October 2003, 5:47 PM

Once again, kindred spirits, you and I.

Natalie · 29th October 2003, 10:31 PM

I believe that there is not any person on this planet who wouldn't love to hear those words said to them. I just love to say it...whenever I look at him I get all mushy and think of how much I adore him and before you know it, it's out..."I love you."

I think I'm just too worried about things that I shouldn't be worried about. I think too much and start to create those demons in my head.

I have noticed that the majority of our phone conversations always ends with "I love you." Sometimes he says it first. I don't know if it means anything whoever is saying it first, but if he's the one who says it first, it somehow it makes me feel good. So I assume that he's probably too shy to open up his emotions like that when we're face to face. Yes...that must be it. He usually grabs me from behind, pull me to the bed and lay on top of me while looking at me right in the eyes...and I could see it in his eyes. His look becomes very tender...and I love that. I have never seen him looking at something/someone like that. It's a special look he has in his eyes that just sweeps me off my feet. But ya know...I was concentrating too much on verbal language...argh...