randy90631 Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Is this something I should be concerned with? I've been dating my GF for 5 months now. She is everything a look for in a girl for long term serious relationship. We get along great, we r silly together, we are very compatible. She says to other people that I'm a great guy and is very happy being with me. I recently told her that I falling in love with her. She explained to that she isn't there yet with me. After in depth conversations, I've discovered that she hasn't been in love with a guy since her first BF a little over 8 years ago. He betrayed her trust and broken her heart. After that she put up a barrier that is very difficult to break through. Her first barrier was the BF/GF title, and I broke through that barrier with persistence and patience. I only asked her her once about the whole GF/BF thing. A month later, she started to refer to herself as my GF. With the whole love thing, I explained how I felt about her, and I also said that I wasn't going to make her uncomfortable by saying 'i love you' until she feels the same for me. I believe that if our relationship continues being awesome, we build our connection to each other, that time is the only factor. I think she wants to be 100% sure about me before investing serious feelings. I'm going to continue to be myself, show what I have to offer for a relationship, and make sure she is happy being with me. We both want to get married to someone, and have kids in the future. I think us being in love has to happen if there is be a real future for us 3 to 5 years from now. How much time should I give myself before there's no hope of her falling for me. I think a year is plenty of time for anyone to know someone and be with someone enough to know if they r the right person for the long term. Should I talk to her after a year of dating and see where she stands or should I do it sooner?
welikeincrowds Posted April 6, 2011 Posted April 6, 2011 Sorry bro, but you can't put a time restriction on this. It's arbitrary anyway. You're okay with the relationship until you're not okay with the relationship. I don't envy your position. I would rather invest my time and love in someone who is capable of loving. But there's a difference between being capable of loving and being capable of loving you, so make sure you have that one figured out.
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