First, you could cut your stress level in half by not expending so much energy worrying about everyone else. I know it’s easier said than done when it comes to family, but if you're not taking care of number one (yourself) you won't be of much help to anyone else, anyway.
Take a temporary furlough from playing family councilor until you’re in a better frame of mind. What your father and sister do, while it may bother you, should not have any influence on how you conduct your life unless you allow it. Let them take responsibility for
themselves and be accountable for their own decisions. You have enough on your plate to deal with.
Second, if a receding hairline has caused self loathing, then do something about it. I know many men who shave their heads completely and many women who find the look sexy as h*ll. If this is not a look that you feel you’d be comfortable with, then perhaps you could seek consultation with a professional regarding the matter. I know two men who have had restorations and it looks so natural that I wouldn’t have even known if I hadn’t been told.
But more importantly, the way you perceive yourself on the outside is more of a reflection of how you’re feeling about yourself on the inside. So let’s focus on the most important person in your life right now --- YOU.
What are the things in your life which bring you the most joy? Are you spending enough time pursuing your hobbies or establishing new ones? Are there things you’ve always wanted to try…places you’ve always wanted to go but just didn’t have the time while you were in a relationship?
If you had to “re-invent” yourself, what kind of man would you like to be? Adventurous?---Bilingual?---More physically fit? Do you wish you could learn to play guitar, better your education, write a book, travel to another country, or learn to prepare a gourmet meal for that next special lady in your life? Is there a career you would rather be pursuing but need a few college courses under your belt to get there?
The world is FULL of opportunity, and our lives are an open book ready to be written and re-written again. Fear and self-doubt are the ONLY obstacles holding us back from becoming who we want to be, and from doing all the things we dream about.
Tonight, you should sit down and take some time for yourself. Put together a “wish list” of those things about yourself and your life that you would like to change, and all those things you wish you could be doing
if your life were different. Then, start with the most realistic and easiest goal to accomplish…and GO FOR IT. With each new goal you meet, you will become happier, more fulfilled and self-assured. Soon, even the most difficult tasks on your list won’t be a challenge at all. And by doing this, you’ll eventually be just too darn busy to dwell on all the unimportant crap that now seems to be cluttering your life. With a little effort and determination, “Change” will become a welcomed opportunity in your life rather than the inconvenience you perceive it to be now.
So…Do you think you can find the courage to give it a try?
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Be the change you want to see in the world --- Ghandi
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