[hunter]

My b/f's family is ruining our relationship not to mention our pocket book.

Currently my b/f and I purchased an acreage and some livestock on his dad's property and everything seemed all nice when we were in the process of it, but now he is changing all the rules and is unbearable to get along with.
I was the smart one I wanted an agreement in writing before anything was purchased but I was told that he and his family got along great. WERE WE EVER WRONG!!!!! My b/f thought a verbal agreement with his dad would be all that he needed. I had a bad feeling from the start about his dad who claims he is a Christian with much respect for God....(did I mention he is an ex-alcoholic)

Some things that have happened are:

1. We were told that we could have property on the land and as long as we maintained it, that would be fine, now he wants to charge us $ 400.00 per month plus we pay a portion of his taxes.

2. We purchased 25 catttle and calves, and were told as long as we looked after them, that was fine, now he wants to charge us $ 250.00 per month to have the livestock on his land.

3. He told us as long as we did the haying and picked up all the bales off the field that these could be ours, now he is charging us $ 600.00 and we did all the work.

This is just a few things that he has done to us......
He expects us to do things for him for nothing and we have no problem helping him out as he is 77 years old, but yet every single time he lifts a finger for us he wants major dollars paid up front and in cash.


We have sunk our life savings of $50,000 into this business and the b/f is just thinking of up and quitting. This will mean that we lose everything. Thank god we kept our property in the city which is 17 miles away otherwise we would be homeless.

Does anyone know how to deal with families that are full of lies, broken promises and more lies?
I had a deep respect for his dad and now I can not stand to look at him, as he makes me sick.

My boyfriend is devasted, he cashed in his RRSP's, mutual funds and bank account that he has saved for 10 years, he is heartbroken, and I am not sure how to handle his frustration.

Any advice on how to deal with the OUTLAWS!!!

Thanks

[clia]

I'm confused. Did you purchase the land or lease it? Do you have the title? If you purchased it (and have title), I'm not clear on how he can ask you for some of the payments he asked for.

At any rate, take him to court. I'm not sure how property law works in Canada, but in the U.S. in most states real estate sales have to be in writing to be enforceable contracts.

[hunter]

We did not purchase the land or lease it.
It was a verbal agreement between the father and son.
We all know how verbal agreements go especially with family.

I am looking for legal advice as we speak.

Thanks

[VASH THE STAMPEDE]

all i could say is that the man has no moral and no romorse.and at his age its probably really hard to comprehend what he said to you two.
as far as legal action there is no binding contract so youll have to pull all your checks back out and determine which ones were given to him, thats if you paid with checks.if not is going to be harder to prove that you gave him money for farmland or anything.your b/f dad used his son's trust to scam money out of him.

[clia]

So it was a gift?

[hunter]

I would not really say it was a gift
More like we have our property and livestock on the land and as long as we maintain it, that is the agreement.

But now it is like we are paying for all the feed and he is stealing it from us, and we have bought things like barns for the animals and now he is putting his animals in our barn, and putting our animals out in the cold.

Personally this is a no win situation.
My boyfriend is a severe daibetic that wanted to start raising and selling livestock as his sight is beginning to be affected to the point where he should not be driving (he is a truck driver) so he wanted to invest his life savings into a business that he could do on his own.

It is just heartbreaking to have to see him being ripped apart by his family.