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Old 16th September 2003, 3:31 PM   #1
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Red face Just need some advice



I was just pondering a thought about relationships and dating and all that. In the past I have made bad decisions on who i choose to be with. Not all are bad but most...I'm trying really hard to work on me because I don't want to attract the wrong people again....I am a very good person with alot to offer? Am I not meeting anyone because I'm afraid to fall for the wrong type again? Its really hard to meet people where I'm from because I don't drink much and I am a single parent who doesnt want to go to the bars to meet people....I have met someone on line but they said they werent ready for anything with anyone yet.....I also believe im not ready....I dunno I'm just confused because...I've been single for a while....I also have to consider my sibling because he comes first above all....I just feel really lonely sometimes and need comfort...but some guys just can't give that? Or is that just what I feel....? Some one give me some good advice...cause I dont know what to do???
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Old 16th September 2003, 4:08 PM   #2
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Why why why why do people only think people can be met at bars? There are a million activities - hobbies, sports, volunteer work, among other things - that people do. You can meet people at the clubs or associations affiliated with these activities.

Once you meet some people, that will lead to meeting other people but you have to have at least one interest outside of your house. Of all the things in this world there are to do, surely there is one that you can choose to get involved in?
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Old 16th September 2003, 9:45 PM   #3
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Sometimes when your down and lonely you can't think as clearly as you can when everthing is cheery and upbeat. Right now you're feeling perhapos a little sad, definitely lonely and in need of comfort. Those are hard feelings to deal with. But it's a good idea, like Moimeme says, to look into different kinds of areas to meet people. It might also be a good idea not to try to make a connection with someone online apart from just chatting for now. You can try safer social arenas like college courses for self improvement, (maybe learn a language) . What about Parents Without Partners. You can probably check out a local chapter online. Good luck.
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Old 24th September 2003, 8:38 PM   #4
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Lightbulb Rebound relationships

Most of us are familiar with rebound relationships, :lovie: I was once givien good advice. "Stay out of a relationship for at least a year" I was told. And you know what it actually works, you'vie got to love yourself before you can love anyone else!
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