[win1234]

Hi,

As some of you know I am currently working on resolving issues and insecurities with my girlfriend. I would like to know how important is sex in a relationship, or how important should it be ? I know at the end of the day it varies from couple to couple.
At the beginning of the relationship, after a month or so, we started having sex. I enjoy having sex alot, and would have no problems in having sex everyday and at the beginning this is pretty much how it was, even sometimes 2-3 times a day. I am willing to explore and try different things, but I do not consider myself overly kinky ( No wips, hot-wax, etc ). My girlfriend however does not think sex is all that important, but she does enjoy it, but was scared to tell me only until we were 3-4 months into the relationship where she really just had enough.Once a week is plenty for her and does not really see why we should have it more frequently. Now this has caused some resentment, because of our differing views. Over the months I have changed alot, but find it very difficult. Now we are making love on average about 1-2 a week. She has told me that in the beginning she felt like a piece of meat, and I think there were times where i really just had sex because I had the urge and she just did it to keep me happy. I can understand and see now how I really did not listen to her and did not respect her feelings and for her it must have felt like I was just having sex with her to satisfy my own urges, however most of the time I always do my best to ask her what she enjoys most and likes to do while we make love, and she has and does initiate the first move at times. However she says she rarely gets a chance to make a move because pretty much everyday I would suggest sex to her first and make the move first. She says she enjoys making love with me. Also recently, she has been a little sore, without going into any details, so this has reduced the frequency even more. Now I know the right thing to do probably is to support her and give her knowledge that I am perfectly ok with not making love for a while. I know she needs to be able to know if anything were ever to happen whereby she could not make love, that I will stick by her, and at the end of the day its something we should both do and be able to enjoy. I guess to a certain extent I have grown up to believe that making love is the ultimate sign of desire for someone, and the best way to show that you love someone, but I think I am starting to see that there are more important things and ways to show your love. I dont know if its just my male hormones on overcharge or maybe I am trying to compensate for a lack of self-esteem and insecurity through sex ? Or maybe both ?
Maybe the only way I can feel validated and loved is through sex, but this to me seems like a very primal and simplistic method of validation ? What do you ladies think ?

W.