Commitment Phobia, a true phobia?
i have been seeing this guy off and on since october. i really wasn't that interested in him at first because he is so much older than me and i just wasn't that attracted to him. he is 40 and i am only24. i know i should have seen the warning signs. but, he was successful ( a denstist), smart, strong, and incredibly charming. he made me feel so good when i was with him and eventually i fell for him. esp. after i slept with him. anyway, he slowly started to slip away after he got what he wanted. i felt terrible. i am not trying to be vain, but i know that i'm attractive, smart, and have a few things going for me. i am also very kind and loving to those i give my heart to. but, apparently it wasn't enough. he still came around, just at his convenience. when i confronted him, he told me that it wasn't me and that i was a wonderful girl that any guy should be so lucky to find, but that he had a problem with commitment. he came back again and i thought he changed. i was so wrong. he was back to his old tricks fast and now i am so fed up that i wrote him a long e-mail telling him that if he was going to view our relationship as a trap, it's no wonder he won't commit. he didn't respond. i told him that he has made me feel demoralized and dehumanized because he uses me for sex and then acts as if he can't leave soon enough. i now no that i will probably never hear from him again. i am very hurt and confused as to why he leaves when things are so good. any advice or insight???????? thanks a lot!
do you think commitmentphobia is a true phobia?
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