My bf and I had a break up several months ago. During the seperation I met someone else and developed feelings for him. My bf (of 3 yrs) realized how important I was to him and what mistakes he made in the relationship and asked for another chance, reluctantly I went back. My problem now is I miss the other man so very much. I felt good deep inside when I spent time w/ him. I felt I could really be myself around him. My bf and I share something special, but during the course of our relationship he never put me first. My bf was selfish and promises that he will change. Since we have been back together he has been a total sweetheart, I can see and feel the difference in him. My dilemma is that I feel that I am missing the other man so much. I think about him constantly. I love my bf very deeply, but is that enough. In time will my feelings subside for this other person? Is everyone else correct in stating that my bf will go back to the same selfish person he had been. I feel so lost. Does anyone have any input?

[Gray]

Previous behavior predicts future behavior...
...but then again people can change.

You and your boyfriend share something special...
...but then again its routine now, and maybe theres something more exciting out there.

You want to try things with this new guy...
...but what if he turns out to be worse than your current bf.

Life's about decisions. No one here can really help you with it. You're just going to have to go with your heart, and then not second guess yourself.

[AuroraFaery]

You really have to follow your heart..

Think to yourself.. which one of these men desurves me?
Which one can i truley be myself around?
which one supports me no matter what?
Put your self first and then the rest will hopefully follow.
And never stay with anyone because of guilt either, you hurt them and you end up hurting yourself. Good luck!