[bobee]

Personally, I have always had a problem carrying on a
conversation with girls at school and on the phone(That's
probably why i've only had 4 girlfriends, lasting for at least 2 weeks, my whole lifetime and I am 16!). I believe that most girls find me attractive and I know that I would have a chance with them but I just don't know the right words to say.

For example, whenever I am at school walking around and I see girls that I know and like I will just walk up to them and say "Hey" or "Wassup" or just flirt with them and that's it while they are still walking beside me wanting something more than that. But let me make myself clear that I don't talk to these girls on the phone and see them every once in a while except if they are in one of my classes. Can anybody understanding what I wrote please give me some tips or something help me?

[Ryan]

Personally, I have always had a problem carrying on a
conversation with girls at school and on the phone

Normal at 16.

i've only had 4 girlfriends, lasting for at least 2 weeks,

Also normal at 16.

I believe that most girls find me attractive and I know that I would have a chance with them but I just don't know the right words to say.

Whew....normal for all of your damn life. It's never so easy that it is automatic. It'll always take some work.

But let me make myself clear that I don't talk to these girls on the phone and see them every once in a while except if they are in one of my classes.

Well...you can't get very far if you don't have opportunities. Scattered encounters that you don't take aren't going to lead to much. Are there any of these young women that you have a preference for? It might be more productive to narrow it down from the whole lot to one or two that most catch your eye. Then you can focus....and ask for a phone number.

As for what to talk about....it depends a little on the person. Show interest in who she is and what she's doing while adding in your personal experiences and opinions. If she does all the talking, you look boring. If you do all the talking, you look conceited. You want to BOTH be talking about things on which you BOTH have something to say....even if you disagree. It can be everyday stuff....music, TV, school, etc.....eventually you can discuss more complicated matters...philosophy, politics, emotional experiences, etc.

Be honest.....share the time....and give a damn about her. You'll get pretty far with most women on those 3 principles.

[Rob]

Carnak the Magnificent is now holding a sealed envelope to his head.

Carnak: The Weather. Current events. Her clothing. Anything to do with HER.

Carnak takes the envelope and opens it. He then reads it aloud.

Carnak: "What are some things I can talk to girls about?"

Ed McMahon laughs

Ed: That is correct, sir!


The moral of this story is, bring up anything related to the girl that you can. Keep the topic on her and make eye contact, smile, and agree (or politely disagree if you must). It takes some practice, but you can one day master this ancient skill. It took me till I was 20, so keep up the good work!

lol exactly.... but remember, one important factor AFTER you've gotten to know her... is to CARE... even if YOU dont care that much... build up her esteem, she'll love you for it... just dont to it too much.. if she said she went shopping, CARE and ask what she got. if she says shes bored, ask what she wants to do... yaddy ya ya.... you get the point... it works wonders to care about their life

[clia]

one important factor AFTER you've gotten to know her... is to CARE... even if YOU dont care that much...

it works wonders to care about their life

Why on earth would you ever date someone whose life you DIDN'T care about? Seems a bit odd to me.

[bobee]

Thanks for helping me out. I'll try these W.O.W. that you gave me and see if I can get somethin going. Does anybody else have W.O.W that they can give me? I would greatly appreciate it.
Thanks