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Old 1st July 2003, 6:47 PM   #1
yagottahelp
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Need some suggestions

Well my ex and I of a little over 2 years broke up a few months ago over some events that happened that were out of our control. Basically she was stressed from moving, I was sressed from some bad grades, we felt a little overwhelmed with everything (including each other), and a random girl I had known for a week gave me a surprise kiss which i hated and ended in about .5 seconds since she snbuck up on me, but still my gf was not happy.

Well my exgf said she needed some time and didn't know what was going on, she was crowded and overwhelmed, and I understood-we had carried a clingy high school relationship into college, and you just can't be with each other all day deveryday before you just say whoa, enough- we both were feeling like that, so it's easy to fix, plus she was upset about moving, working, and basically not having anytime whatsoever for herself.
but i thought it was good that the little time she did have, she'd normally ask if i would like to do something.......

Since the breakup we've gradually been getting closer and closer again, to the point where people thinkg we're datying, although we aren't officially. She moved a few days ago, and will be back at school with me in about 6 weeks. Before the move, we stayed together at night, cuddled a little, flirted a lot, and before the move she just unloaded emotions of how much she'd miss me and how she didn't need anyone else in life yada yada yada

So i think it's great we're getting so close, and it's like we're dating, minus the kissing and stuff since we don't want a horribly blurred line-we are definately what i believe is the way to getting back together. ANy suggestions on how to keep progressing this.......i don't want to flatout bring it up yet, but i don't want to miss my window either-how would you guys go about doing this??

RIght now if we aren't officially bf gf, i'm fine with that, but of course i'd liek to be in the future, taking it slow though is not a problem.......
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Old 3rd July 2003, 8:03 PM   #2
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Bestfriend giving signals

I posted this kind of before, but it was really long, so i'm cutting it down a bunch so maybe i'll get a few responses.

My bestfriend, who happens to be a recent ex-is sending me positive signals.

Space has seemed to be positive, we both missed each other, and startd to hangout more and more. We continue to hug, she asked me to stay over at her house a few times recently overnight, has recently started to reminis about sayings, or our little things we had during the relationship even as simple as a star or a tree we carved our name on. She has emailed me, im'ed me, called me, jsut to say hi and how much she missed me.......wishing i was there or she was here even to do this littlest things.

Makes a point of saying how she has kept a little thing or two from us in her wallet, or sleeps with a stuffed animal from the relationship.

Basically, everyone thinks we're a couple, except for me and her. I'd love to be again, but i don't want to bring it up if she isn't ready. We go to college together, so time is on our side-i'll see her in about 6 weeks(plus a visit or two). I'm thinking i should just keep taking it slow, letting it creap back into a relationship naturally. I was just looking for some advice, is this a good idea?

I know that being boyfriend and girlfriends is just a title, but I guess a part of me, even though i'm pretty sure of how she feels still, my mind would just be put at ease a little more if we were official-the lines wouldn't be so blurred

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