[weltrav]

Okay, so just when it looks like things couldn't be more complicated. I'm on about 2 weeks NC with an ex that split with me back in April. We didn't talk much for months, then in Sept and Oct there was the possibility of getting back together, I came on too strong I guess, and she rejected me, which really threw me for a spin.

Well, right at this moment I have two other girls who are interested in me. One of them I recently met and the other is actually an old ex from about 2 years ago. I've been hanging out casually with both and obviously sometime in the future I would have to see which is the best to go down the dating/relationship path.

But I'm afraid that dating either might be a rebound or something to make me feel better after the emotional turmoil of the past month. It wouldn't be fair to either of them or to me if the relationship were a bandage of sorts. I guess I want to know if anyone has any advice on figuring out when a new relationship is unattached to a previous emotional wound. Any firsthand/similar experiences would help me put this in perspective.

[GrayClouds]

Originally Posted by weltrav

But I'm afraid that dating either might be a rebound or something to make me feel better after the emotional turmoil of the past month. It wouldn't be fair to either of them or to me if the relationship were a bandage of sorts. I guess I want to know if anyone has any advice on figuring out when a new relationship is unattached to a previous emotional wound. Any firsthand/similar experiences would help me put this in perspective.

Trust your feelings, give yourself time. You wont doubt yourself when your ready.

[Praying4Daylight]

I wouldn't be in any hurry to hop right back into a relationship. Just hang out and enjoy your freedom with whoever you want to for a while.

[bluestraps]

If you are still thinking about your ex or have strong feelings I would wait until you are well on your own. But I also am single and it would be nice to have someone to fill the void.

[HeavenOrHell]

Would you like to get back with the ex (the one you split with this year)?
If you do then it wouldn't be a good idea to see someone else, it wouldn't feel right to you and if you got back with her you would be hurting the new gf if you left her
What does your heart say? What do you want deep down?

[Odyssey]

Like GreyClouds mentioned, you'll know you're ready when there's no doubt or confusion in your mind. When you don't even have to come on LS to ask if you're ready. It wouldn't be fair to the girl you're thinking of dating either.