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So I've been reading this forum and online advice for days now. I've even read the book "Re-Attraction: How to get your Ex Back in 30 Days or Less"....now of course I am not taking the book literally..but it does have some amazing valid points. I want to share my story with you all and if anyone is out there to reply and give me some advice it would lift my spirits.

I'm 25, and I started dating a gorgeous girl two years ago. We were long distance as I was away at college for a good 7 months. Our relationship was extremely intense and we both developed such a strong bond with each other. I went on a backpacking trip to Europe for a month after graduating college and we both told each other I love you the night before I left. She was from my home town, so I decided to move back there upon graduation and I found a really good job and we moved into an apartment together. Our relationship was a continual growing process during our living together. Everything seemed too good to be true for so so long. We took spontaneous trips to Seattle, NYC, etc...and for the next year and a half things were heating up between us. I knew she was "the one" and I started shopping for engagement rings. I was going to pop the question in December next month.

Then, 3 weeks ago she simply dropped a bomb on me and one night told me she was "unhappy"...I wasnt too shocked because she had stopped having sex with me, being initimate with me, and spending more time with friends. I was completely supportive of her plight and vowed to do whatever it took to make us grow again.

She then sat me down one night, told me she had kissed an old flame and it meant nothing. But then she moved out 4 days later, got her own apartment, took all of her things, and for the next 2 weeks I was in complete turmoil. I did my best to play it cool, but she kept assuring me it was over with the old flame. However, this last weekend on Halloween she was seen out in public with him sitting on his lap and was even introduced as her new "boyfriend". I waited a couple days before I asked her on this and it completely SHOCKED me how different of a person she seemed to be. She told me she was completely over me and had moved on with this new man. It was as if I never existed, and as if our relationship meant nothing to her. Her new man doesnt live here, is in the military, and went back to base after spending a good 4 days at her apartment with her. It was the absolute worst 4 days of my entire life imagining what they were doing in her new place.

Then, she went to Atlanta last Monday for a concert and we hadnt spoken in 4 days. she sent a text late at night and said she was missing me sorely and finally hit this brick wall of emotions. I refused to reply for a few more days but then she shows up at my apt claiming she needed to get a few more things. she got them and stormed off. so last night was sort of intense. she called me crying hysterically saying she made such a huge mistake and she has lost me forever. I kept playing it cool and never strung her along...just told her I am here if she needs to talk. I dont wanna be COLD and completely ignore her pain right now. But Im not quite sure how to handle the situation. I did do the no contact rule for 5 days straight but she kept texting me on how she misses me. Should I try this again?

.... I am living each day in SO much pain that she deceived me. I miss her more than anything and my heart yearns to have her again, but she cheated on me and Im a whirlwind of questions and emotions. Any advice guys?