[florence]

HI,
I have known my LD man for 7 months, we live in different countries, albeit only a 2 hour flight away.
He is so sweet and loving when we are together, but I have no idea how he feels as he does not tell me, and I'm quite old fashioned as I think the man should take the lead.
We have just spent a lovely weekend together - and I always feel much better when we set a date for the next meet, even if it is 6 weeks away. At least I know I will see him again. We email each other through the day as well.
He has not mentioend seeing me again this time, although we had such a good time. He does tend to do this, it feels like I'm being a typical woman and he is being a typical man.
The thing is - if he wants to stop the relationship what signs should I look out for? I dont want to be pushy - we are both very shy about our feelings, which makes it difficult to know where I stand.

[SophieA]

Originally Posted by florence

HI,
I have known my LD man for 7 months, we live in different countries, albeit only a 2 hour flight away.
He is so sweet and loving when we are together, but I have no idea how he feels as he does not tell me, and I'm quite old fashioned as I think the man should take the lead.
We have just spent a lovely weekend together - and I always feel much better when we set a date for the next meet, even if it is 6 weeks away. At least I know I will see him again. We email each other through the day as well.
He has not mentioend seeing me again this time, although we had such a good time. He does tend to do this, it feels like I'm being a typical woman and he is being a typical man.
The thing is - if he wants to stop the relationship what signs should I look out for? I dont want to be pushy - we are both very shy about our feelings, which makes it difficult to know where I stand.

I don't really think there is room to be shy in a LDR. You only have communication to nurture your relationship. You have to know where you stand.

Basically, if he isn't jumping at the chance to set a date to see you again...maybe he's keeping his options open?

I don't know. I'd suggest you bite the bullet and lay it all out there. Ask him to do the same. Then you won't have to wonder how he feels anymore.