[Confused728]

He sent me a text today after one month of NC, he simply said "good morning! hope all is well with you " what does this mean, i havent answered yet, what should i do, what do you think is intent is. Today is exactlly one month..

[TaraMaiden]

Ah... he's feeding the birds with breadcrumbs, yanking your chain, and throwing you a line to reeeeeel you in and break your heart all over again.
This is what you do:

Delete text.
Block number.
Ignore.
Move on.

Simple.

But effective....

Or what also works...
I had a pest on my 'phone, and this is what I sent back:

* * * This is an automated message: Delivery to the above recipient has not been possible. * * *

Then, I blocked their number.

It worked.

Never heard another peep.

[Confused728]

its possible that if he wanted to work things out i would be interestead in hearing what he had to say? at what point or what should he be saying for me to answer? u think it really is just bread crumbs?

[seychelles]

don't reply. you're just going to be put at square 1 again.

[TaraMaiden]

permit me to direct you to the link in my signature - a piece of writing by a fellow member, called 'Caliguy'.
It should be a university of Life Thesis with a pass mark of Honours with distinction:
read the bit that says:

Q. I've been on NC for some time and my Ex just contacted me, what do I do?

Digest the line which reads,

"if your ex wants you back nothing will stop them from getting in touch with you."

The only thing you should ever consider responding to is:
"I'm so sorry. Please forgive me. I realise I made a terrible mistake. I want you back in my life, I need you and I love you."

Everything else is just a means to find out how much you still think of them and feel for them.
This message was completely neutral, impersonal, and had nothing - BUT NOTHING - in it to even suggest he wants you back.
And please believe me, if he wanted you back, he would have said so.

Like I said - Ignore it.

[Confused728]

i dont know why he would send this... you think he just wants to see if i want him still or is he trying to start a conversation?

[TaraMaiden]

Neither.

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He just wants to see whether you'll reply, because then he will know you're still responsive.

Like I said, it's known as throwing you breadcrumbs.
he might as well have sent that to his mother, for all the interest in YOU, it shows.....

I-G-N-O-R-E IT!!!