[LuckyYou]

Ok a little bit of back ground. I recently got out of a 3 year relationship about a month and a half ago. It was a very serious one we lived together for almost the entire 3 years and spent almost every day together. It was pretty much a mutual breakup, we had to break up there was no way around it. (long story.) The relationship was not a good one. There were good times of course but a lot of really really bad ones too....

I moved to a new state about 2 weeks after the breakup, which I think has made it a lot easier to deal with. A fresh new start, im closer to my family now and things are going great! We have been NC for a couple of weeks now too which has helped so much. Things about the relationship are becoming so clear its hard to explain.... I have kept all material things from the break up, I have them stored away for memories later in life. But the last few days I have found myself at a crossroads. I have a lot of pictures on my phone of him/us. And I'm not sure if I want to delete them or not... I feel like I should because I know I will never be with him again. Like I said the relationship was not a good one and I have relized that I don't want to ever be back in it. So what would be the point in keeping them.. I have been thinking about deleting them the last few days and everytime I think about I come to the conclusion that I should. But I am afraid I might regret it later. I don't know why I would regret it like I said I KNOW we will never be together again and I'm not sure if I even want a friendship with him anymore...

I guess what I'm asking is to erase or not to erase.... Has anyone on here erased memories and come to regret it later? (I threw out EVERYTHING from my last serious relationship and still sort of regret it to this day) Should I delete them and finally put an end to that chapter in my life? Or should I keep them until I am 100 and 10% sure I wont ever regret it.

(The space on my phone is almost full!!)

[McGrupp]

i guess if your not sure but you dont want them to be easily available i would send them to my email and burn them to a disc and delete them off my phone and store the disc somewhere.

[Praying4Daylight]

get rid of them! Just do it. It'll hurt a bit at first but, a month down the road you'll be glad you did.

[dashing daisy]

I've had the urges to delete things before, but I've also been scared so I never really did. Anything digital I just moved -- transferred to my external hard drive in a separate folder -- and removed them from something that I would look at often. I didn't want a constant reminder, but I also felt strange getting rid of them permanently. Anything physical I put away in a place I wouldn't have to see it unless I went looking. And I don't.

If you don't feel okay about deleting them, I would just do that. You can save them to some other place, and then delete them from your phone. I wouldn't make them easily accessible though...you want to have some time to think before looking through that stuff.

Down the line, I've generally been glad I kept things. But looking at them constantly is not helpful to the moving on process.

[JaggedRoad]

I deleted all digital media that reminded me of us. Every tangible object has been thrown out as well. My ex got me a sweater last Christmas, and I even threw that out. I don't need items to remind me of her--my mind is enough.

[USMCHokie]

I personally can't get rid of things permanently...it'd be like getting rid of pictures of myself as a kid...I know that it's recommended that you get rid of all the evidence of an ended relationship in order to move on, but they are still memories of my life...and damn good ones if I might add...that I'll always cherish...maybe not right now, but further down the road, I'll want to remember the good times...

So I'd save and store and let them sit for a while...even if you never rummage through them again, at least you'll have a choice down the road...but that's just my opinion...

[LuckyYou]

I have thought about uploading them online but I have a pre-paid phone and there are like 100 pictures it would take forever and cost to much money I just don't think it would be worth it. I think I am just going to delete them. I will wait one more week and if I still feel like its the right thing then I guess I will erase them and no regrets!