A few summers ago, I was severely depressed about my ex. (the same ex who became an ex again in Sept, when I found LS online) Anyway, I remember lying around, moping, crying, doing what many would probably call "normal" post-breakup things. I mean this "fabulous" guy who ripped my heart out WAS the love of my life, right? I thought he was the one, and I'm not getting any younger, so this breakup was pretty bad. (I guess I shoud say the multiple breakups...d*ck)
I have a little sister who is 13 years old. I'm 35, and I think she was probably 9 at the time. She lives in Arizona and comes to NY every summer to stay with me (and the rest of ourt family). One night, we were just lounging around watching movies. I was depressed about my ex, so I wasn't too much fun. I mean, there is nothing wrong with watching movies, but I only have her for the summer, ya know?! I realized how selfish I was being and asked her "do you want to go shopping or something? ".Duh- stupid question , right? I mean, she IS a girl and she is MY SISITER!
Obviously, she said yes.
As we walked around the mall, we were trying to think of something to buy- like a craft or something we could buy to do together. I saw this one thing and said "well, we could get thaaaat if you want. But, are you too old for that??" I will remember the look on her face and what she said to me for the rest of my life. She said "I'm not too old for anything, sissy." At that moment I realized just HOW selfish I was for moping around and not giving her 100%. How could I not spend every minute of that summer trying to make her time with me FABULOUS? And I don't mean materail things, I mean quality, sister time.
So, fast forward to earlier today. I'm emailing my friend (who I met on here). We have similar stories. Inother words, our exes are both d*cks, and we talk about what's going on etc. So, I brought up the story about my sister. Then I told her. Actually, i'm gonna go put that on LS right now.
So, what's my point?
Whatever your situation, whatever reason you are hurting, think about what you're doing. Obviously, we hurt and there are so may different ways we deal with our pain. But if you are hurting over someone who didn't give the 100% that you did, think about it! That time you spend crying, moping or whatever you're doing could be time spent with people who DO give you 100%. I dont' know about you guys, but I have a wonderfula family and the best freinds in the world. I know I only have a limited time on earth to show them how much I love them. Why waste even ONE of those moments sitting home and crying about someone who doesn't DESERVE you? What if that were the last time you ever got to see that person??? Think about it. It is honestly what's helping me get over my ex. He doesn't deserve my time. The people that TRULY love me are the ones who get my time. Think about those people who ARE THERE for you. You'll get over your ex. If it's meant to be it will be, But in the mean time, live your life with no regrets and soend it with people who matter.
xo
) and that was my light bulb moment. I realised this girl I loved was not the same person anymore, she has no feelings for my wellbeing and she certainly doesn't care that I wanted her back.
) and just enjoying my time with my little ones and my family. I also know how much she will sit there crying over not having the kids with her, so that's just an added (petty...) bonus...
Hybrid Mode
