Is it wrong to like Asian women? When does it cross the line?
I am just curious and feel the need to throw this question out there.
Personally, I find myself (a 23-year-old white male) attracted to girls of Asian descent (Chinese, Japanese, Korean, etc). However, this would normally get interpreted as an Asian fetish/"Yellow fever"/etc, but I've always had issue with this due to the fact that it implies a sexual objectification.
However, I *do* find Asians more sexually attractive, but that is not the only reason I have that preference, and I wouldn't turn turn a girl of another race purely because of her ethnicity (an awesome girl is nevertheless awesome), but Asian features do carry a lot of weight for me.
Regardless, what are your thoughts on the matter? Do you think Asian women get freaked out by such a preference? Is it really any different from someone who prefers tall men, or smart women, or men with blue eyes, etc -- when does it cross the line from an acceptable preference to an all-out creepy fetish, in your opinion?
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It's just a preference. I'm black and I am usually more attracted to white guys. Not to say I wouldn't date someone of another race, but I just prefer white guys for some reason. Nothing wrong with that since you said it's just a preference and not a must. It'd be creepy if you came across a woman of another race who had all the qualities you were looking for in a woman and great chemistry with, but you chose an Asian woman whom you had no chemistry with and who had almost none of the qualities you wanted in a woman, over the previous lady. Then you might have a problem.
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I had a guy friend who graduated from my college a couple of years ago and he has a fetish. He's really into Japanese anime/music/style, etc. He ONLY dates Asian girls--didn't matter what other girls may have liked him; if they weren't Asian, he wasn't going for it. He pursued every single Asian girl on campus and just ignored other girls (including me! I had a crush on him once). I'd say you're fine, basically because you would be very willing to date girls who aren't Asian if you liked them enough. You just have a preference.
It's just a preference. I'm black and I am usually more attracted to white guys. Not to say I wouldn't date someone of another race, but I just prefer white guys for some reason. Nothing wrong with that since you said it's just a preference and not a must. It'd be creepy if you came across a woman of another race who had all the qualities you were looking for in a woman and great chemistry with, but you chose an Asian woman whom you had no chemistry with and who had almost none of the qualities you wanted in a woman, over the previous lady. Then you might have a problem.
Sorry for the OT but aero when you said that you were pulled over twice for suspected underage driving when you were 18-19 the first thing I thought of was DWB or the cops just wanted to pull a cute girl over. I'm sorry but that **** if ****ed up and I don't know what else to say about it. Hopefully it doesn't happen again.
Sorry for the OT but aero when you said that you were pulled over twice for suspected underage driving when you were 18-19 the first thing I thought of was DWB or the cops just wanted to pull a cute girl over. I'm sorry but that **** if ****ed up and I don't know what else to say about it. Hopefully it doesn't happen again.
Haha yes that could've been it, I'll never know though.
I am just curious and feel the need to throw this question out there.
Personally, I find myself (a 23-year-old white male) attracted to girls of Asian descent (Chinese, Japanese, Korean, etc). However, this would normally get interpreted as an Asian fetish/"Yellow fever"/etc, but I've always had issue with this due to the fact that it implies a sexual objectification.
However, I *do* find Asians more sexually attractive, but that is not the only reason I have that preference, and I wouldn't turn turn a girl of another race purely because of her ethnicity (an awesome girl is nevertheless awesome), but Asian features do carry a lot of weight for me.
Regardless, what are your thoughts on the matter? Do you think Asian women get freaked out by such a preference? Is it really any different from someone who prefers tall men, or smart women, or men with blue eyes, etc -- when does it cross the line from an acceptable preference to an all-out creepy fetish, in your opinion?
I don't knock you at all for being drawn to the physicality of asian women, but those who are drawn to the way that so much of asian culture thrives on treating females as second class citizens give me the creeps.
I'm sure that some asian women get freaked out by such a preference.
I recall the actress Lucy Liu having once been quoted as having said:
"I won't date men who date only asian women"
(which really made her look bad when she failed to make exception for asian men with that preference)
Finally, it is not any different from those other traits when your preference relates only to physical features. If your interest in asians relates to enjoying treating women as second class citizens it isn't far from having a preference for women who have been victimized, so that you can victimize them again.
As long as it's purely physical (and you don't turn the physical into an all-encompassing thing), it's cool.
What gets my goat is people who prefer Asians because they have certain (rather deluded) ideas on how Asian women are more 'traditional' (insert personal preference of what 'traditional' means here - which, for most men, means a girl that will not only be submissive, do all the housework, and put her man before everything, but also give in to his 'manly urges' and have sex on the third date ).
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As long as it's purely physical (and you don't turn the physical into an all-encompassing thing), it's cool.
What gets my goat is people who prefer Asians because they have certain (rather deluded) ideas on how Asian women are more 'traditional' (insert personal preference of what 'traditional' means here - which, for most men, means a girl that will not only be submissive, do all the housework, and put her man before everything, but also give in to his 'manly urges' and have sex on the third date ).
Well, the thing is that these are not deluded ideas (at least the part you don't misrepresent). Having dated an asian girl (and seeing some of my friends do too), it is precisely right that asian women, on average, are more traditional. My gf certainly doesn't put me before everything, or do all the housework, etc. But, she does let me take the lead pretty much all the time. It doesn't mean that she doesn't have her own mind, it means that she doesn't raise hell just to make a point, like any insecure butch white girl, but would refrain from conflict unless it is something that actually matters. What some people call submissiveness is simply appreciation of the fact that there are complementary roles/division of labor in relationships - a point that got lost long ago and nothing good came out of it. In other words, I have a lot more assurance that if I treat her well, she will treat me well - something that I could not say to the same extent in previoues relationships.
Much like overweight girls are upsed that guys would pick a thin one over them any day, I suspect that the "fierce" western woman is upset that most guys would pick an actually feminine woman any day as well.
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For all of you who are experts on Asian women, I thank you. It is good to learn about how I am supposed to be . I think some of you are more "asian" than I am .....those are the people I would be worried about....
I know somebody who argues with me about being "Japanese" - he is Caucasian and has never even been to Japan!!!!! it's quite amazing ...lol...
btw, vertex, nice pics, thanks for sharing....I am sure you will make some Asian woman happy one day
I sometimes think too many on LS, overthink superficial preferences. If you're attracted to Asians or purple people eaters, and they're attracted to you, does it really matter what other people think?
Now if you're attracted to [insert whatever preference(s)] and they aren't attracted to you, then that's something to be concerned about.
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I sometimes think too many on LS, overthink superficial preferences. If you're attracted to Asians or purple people eaters, and they're attracted to you, does it really matter what other people think?
Now if you're attracted to [insert whatever preference(s)] and they aren't attracted to you, then that's something to be concerned about.
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I had a crush on him once). I'd say you're fine, basically because you would be very willing to date girls who aren't Asian if you liked them enough. You just have a preference.
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. I think some of you are more "asian" than I am 
.....those are the people I would be worried about....
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