[barbiedollwarhol]

I typically have no problems figuring out what goes on in mens minds. It really isn't so complex...But this situation is complex.So I need help. I have been getting these feelings that my professor is interested in me since the 2nd week of class. He pointed me out one day when making fun of the boys that were at my table. He wanted us to participate in an exercise where we tried to remember each others names. None of the boys seemed to remember any other name but mine. That's when the professor said, " Hmmm.. Interesting that you only remember her name..." Then the boys were playing stupid and asked the professor what he meant , then the professor pointed at me and said, " That's what I meant "I guess he was referring to me being attractive and that's why the boys only remembered me out of the six other girls in our group. Anyways because I was not so sure I blew it off...then I start noticing him staring at me everyday in class. Eventually we just started holding eye contact for long periods of time. He also is very very friendly when emailing me. He was not at first, but now he always says something like " See you in class" "Have a good weekend" Now we are on a first name basis. He never refers to himself by his last name, its always his first name only or a nickname he wants me to call him. This morning we walked to class together, not intentionally , at least not on my part. He said good morning then darted off, I then realized he was racing me for the door and wanted to open it for me, I allowed it and said thank you. Then we had to walk up stairs but he had me go first even though we could have walked with each other.I am pretty sure he was checking out my butt. HA. Because we got up the stairs and he disappears ( off to the mens room ) and shows up about 7 minutes late to class. The first thing he did was find me in the room, and give me " that smile". What do you think? Sorry this was so long.

[Art_Critic]

Yeah.. he digs you.. he digs you so much that he is willing to sacrifice himself to bang you for a semester while you believe he cares for you till you wake up one day after the next semester starts and realize there is someone new in your old place..

Don't ruin your self esteem over some arrogant self absorbed professor that doesn't care about you and is only looking to dip his noodle and get it wet..

[barbiedollwarhol]

HAHA gross. And you know what I was thinking the same thoughts as you. I would never ever ever just have sex with a guy I was not in a relationship with. I have high enough self- esteem and even if I did, I don't see how being used could make me feel better. But in all respect, I started changing my mind a bit. He isn't that attractive, pudgy even. He doesn't seem overly confident and most of the time bashful in front of me. I also don't find myself hideous at all, but I do have a weird taste in men. Like a really weird taste.

[confused192]

Hmm, I am not sure, there is a possiblity he is! Are you into him? I always have found professors sexy...I think its the fact that they had power over me. It's a huge turn on. I actually ended up dating several of my former professors and even married one! So I have a little expertise in this area.

With all of my previous encounters with professors, absolutely nothing happened while I was in their classes. Believe it or not, professors take that very seriously, as even one accusation from a student about innappropriate behavior could really hurt their career and their chance to get tenure. They must behave professionally at all times and most of them do that. The professor of mine that I married (now my ex-husband) barely acknowledged me in class. He treated me exactly the same as all the other students...he later told me that he had to physically make himself not look at me in class unless I was speaking. When he heard that I was transfering majors at the end of term, he sent me an email to ask if I wouldn't mind meeting him to discuss what actions/events led me to change my mind about this career path. At that meeting we talked a little about school and then spent most of the rest of the time talking about one another. That is how our relationship got started but if you would have asked me while I was still in his class if I thought he was into me, I would have thought you were crazy. It was pretty much the same way with the other professors I dated...absolutely nothing happened or was suggested until after they no longer had an influence on my grades.

I know you hear about professors banging their students all the time, but in reality, it doesn't happen all that often. And the ones that do that may not be the best to get involved in because they may not place a high value on their career or integrity. My one piece of advice is that, if you are into him, you must absolutely be the one to make the first move and please wait to do it until after the class is completely over and grades are in. He cannot make the first move because what if you got freaked out and said no...he could get fired.

That's my take on it, hope it helped some!

[SincereOnlineGuy]

More important:


What grade do you wish to obtain from that class?




and




What grade is most likely to be associated with your abilities in that subject?

[always_searching]

Well, barbiedollwarhol, I think that he definitely has shown signs of interest--you lucky girl you.

Seriously, though: it probably is better to ignore his advances until the end of the semester, when he won't be as apt to get fired and you won't be as apt to be coined "that girl who sleeps with her professors."

Believe me, regardless of whether you sleep with him or not: if you decide to date him while you're his student, you will be coined "that girl" by the other professors in the department as well as your fellow peers. Such a stigma is hard to recover from.

Anyway, good luck. I really hope he didn't do what I think he did in that bathroom...