Please forgive me if this comes off a bit convoluted.
For those who don't know, my ex has NPD.
The relationship imploded in a nasty way.
Surprise.
Since everything fell and went boom, his true characteristics have surfaced more and more - he sees no need for a facade any longer.
Except sometimes, in small moments.
Every new break is killing me.
Even though I know this is really him, it's still very distressing to me.
I loved him greatly, am guily of being a romantic.
I hate that part of myself at the moment.
He stops by. He's drinking, beer. He's also on antidepressants.
Just in case this is important: he is very thin, and rarely drank before.
I don't believe he had too much to drink, but the way he acted was very bizarre, almost manic.
My question is: even if one doesn't drink a large quantity of alcohol, is drinking while on anti-ds a dangerous thing for him to do?
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If this helps, the antidepressant is Zoloft.
Often anti-depressants will accelerate the effects of alcohol. You get drunk faster. If he is not much of a drinker, the booze could have really hit him hard.
It is highly discourage to drink, specially quantity, of booze while on anti-d's. Alcohol is a depressant so it negates any good the anit-d's do and often will create a increase in depression for days after drinking, specially if it is in quantity.
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On some anti depressants or all over here it says alcohol isn't advised, but I think they just do that to be on the safe side and maybe so no one can sue them if they have an accident while drunk and on anti depressants or something.
I've been on anti depressants since 2006 and I've had a drink every week, it's not done me any harm, and I definatley don't act manically. Maybe he's just a rare person who isn't suited to drink and anti depressants, or maybe he has some other issues.
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JamesM - You've eased my mind a lot. Thanks muchly.
Ross - Thanks for sharing your experience. Right now, I'm of the mind that it's unmasking other issues - just like you wrote.
He was being quite sadistic. Usually, he's a bit more subtle than that.
It is really just such a trainwreck, I am so hurt and saddened by this.
This is my fault (why I am saddened).
JamesM - You've eased my mind a lot. Thanks muchly.
Ross - Thanks for sharing your experience. Right now, I'm of the mind that it's unmasking other issues - just like you wrote.
He was being quite sadistic. Usually, he's a bit more subtle than that.
It is really just such a trainwreck, I am so hurt and saddened by this.
This is my fault (why I am saddened).
JamesM - You've eased my mind a lot. Thanks muchly.
Ross - Thanks for sharing your experience. Right now, I'm of the mind that it's unmasking other issues - just like you wrote.
He was being quite sadistic. Usually, he's a bit more subtle than that.
It is really just such a trainwreck, I am so hurt and saddened by this.
This is my fault (why I am saddened).
I appreciate the feedback, it calms me.
As a therapist I will vouch for the link James sent you.
I'm sorry for your experience..how terrible.
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Devil - Thanks for the checking up, and the empathy. I've come to the conclusion that some of this was done purposely. How conscious he actually is of this, I do not know.
It sounds to me like he's drinking more than you know. Perhaps some vodka on the sly that you don't know about. It doesn't take much for him to do a shot every so often and keep the high on beer in between, The serious weight loss does NOT jive with anti-d's...abuse of hard liquor does. His behavior does as well.
With him being NPD and drinking, things can get out of control quickly. I was M to one who was both NPD and an alcoholic at the same time. It was scary and dangerous. He hurt me many times.
It sounds to me like he's drinking more than you know. Perhaps some vodka on the sly that you don't know about. It doesn't take much for him to do a shot every so often and keep the high on beer in between, The serious weight loss does NOT jive with anti-d's...abuse of hard liquor does. His behavior does as well.
He never drank a lot before, and was always thin. Now he's lost more weight still. He's approaching emaciated (hell, he is).
He could be drinking more than I know...that's a good point, sitexas.
When I think about the anti-d's, combined with alcohol, and the fact that he is losing weight and acting this way is hard to take.
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With him being NPD and drinking, things can get out of control quickly. I was M to one who was both NPD and an alcoholic at the same time. It was scary and dangerous. He hurt me many times.
That sounds like a nightmare. I'm so glad you are away from that.
When you say, "things can get out of control quickly", you told a very real truth. He has always went through phases where he would do things that were unpredictable -- but this is different.
He told me a lot of things today that are going to haunt me for awhile.
My question is: even if one doesn't drink a large quantity of alcohol, is drinking while on anti-ds a dangerous thing for him to do?
From what I've read and been told one should not mix Anti-D's and alcohol becuase the alcohol can intensify the affects of the medication. I believe most Anti-D's have this warning label on them.
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