[Sameli]

My husband and I recently separated. We have been married for 14 years and had a very up and down marriage. For the most part I always thought it was just part of being married since our love was always, I felt very deep. That is until the last year or so. I found myself asking him if he loved me and our sex life went downhill. This is our 3 separation or maybe 4. The first one lasted a couple of weeks, the second one lasted a month and now this one..it's been 3 weeks of physical separation but 3 months of not talking. We have 2 wonderful children who love their daddy very much. His problem I always thought was that he never was good with responsibilities. Couldn't phone when he was going to be late from work, had no desire to talk about money ever, just spend it and leave me to pay the bills etc. etc. I on the other hand am very independant and I have to admit "controling". I needed to be in control since he never was. I always even asked him to take control of our finances and he never could. He stopped talking to his parents 3 yrs. ago over "money owed to him". In all honesty I have to say our marriage had problems because both of us had our issues. I think it was 50/50 but he suddenly became very angry at me when I was going through a very stressful time at work and decided tostay angry ever since. He is loosing so much and so are we. I love him more than anything and I feel lost, devasted alone and desperate for him. I need help. I am assurred by others that there is no one else in the picture, he simply is very hurt and angry with live. Feels that he gave me all of him and I wanted more. I need to make this right but he's not willing to listen anymore to me. I have suddenly realized all my issues but in his mind "why this time"...I also don't think it fair that he's blaming this entire marriage on me but I really want a chance to make it better...do I try to reach out to him or do i sit and wait??
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