[tucker08]

My boyfriend of about 3 years and I are from the same city but during the year he lives away for hockey. The first year we went out started in the summer and we continued dating while he was away, the next summer rolled around and before he left again for the year we broke up. We didn't talk really while he was away and it was a good time for us both to concentrate on our selves. When he returned the following summer we got back together as it was undeniable that we had a very strong connection. We spent a lot of time together and everything was fine so once he left again we decided to try to stay together through it. After only about a month and a half we broke up because we were beginning to become disconnected again. It wasn't a bad breakup he made it clear he just didn't have it in him to give me what I need and that he found it hard to find time to talk and that it wasn't fair for either of us. He insisted we act more maturely this time around and still talk occasionally and not to be scared to see eachother when he gets back.

This hurts a lot but my mom told me she believes it is for the best and that he does still love me or he wouldn't be looking out for me like this. She believes once summer rolls around again he will be back in my life because she knows we are a great match..

Do you think that it is possible he really is doing this for both of us and that he still loves me and will look to see me again when he is back?

[jumi]

i think your mom is right. the way you describe him he sounds pretty genuine. long distance takes a lot of figuring out on both parts... and he may not be confident that he can sustain a relationship or he is worried about not being able to give you what you need and he doesn't want the stress.

i'm sure you guys can reunite in the summer again... and he is absolutely right... be mature about it. he obviously cares about you in one way or another, he's thinking about you. Give it a shot anyway, I'm sure if you make the effort to get back with him he will respond.

[tucker08]

Its been a couple weeks, at the start we chatted a little bit almost everyday. just small talk nothing to personal. The other day I sent him a message, just saying happy thanks giving and what not and at the end I put miss you.. well he replied back happy thankgivigin to you as well and that was it. I felt kinda bad for putting him in that position so i wrote back just saying sorry i know i shouldnt say that and forget i did type deal and he never replied. today i met someone who knows him very well and i just sent a simple little message that said i met so and so haha pretty small world..and again he never answered.

its so hard for me to know and understand what he is thinking because he literally has said he wants to stay talking stay on good terms and maybe hangout in the summer and what not not necesarrily get back together but still be close and what not. and now all of a sudden he is ignoring me and its throwing me off a bit?

he did this last year as well but once he returned home he came running right back and told me he was just tyring to get over me...but this is exactly what he said he didnt want to happen...what do you think?