I'm the same but I wouldn't call myself a perfectionist because I acknowledge I make mistakes and have failures. If you don't expect to have success all the time but try your best maybe you'll not be so upset with the failure, but maybe you can give a specific example to better understand where you're coming from.
__________________ ~Ignorance is bliss. ~Failure is success if we learn from it. -Malcolm Forbes ~Those willing to sacrifice freedom for safety deserve & shall receive neither. -Benjamin Franklin
I was like that and then had a life-altering experience which changed my priorities. Dishes can sit in the sink all day and projects can be put off until tomorrow, as examples. Also, as you age, priorities change and mortality intrudes, as loved ones get sick and die. There's nothing perfect about death. Why should life be any different?
Anyway, I can empathize. My perfectionism probably was one of my major contributions to the downfall of my M. It was one of the most common complaints from my stbx.
thats a tough one.. we dont always have control of success and failure,, but you can choose how you deal with it.. i know thats corny,, but heres my advice.. spend more time doing things that will be enjoyable regardless of the outcome
I know that I am, that it's hard on me. But, I can't seem to stop it.
I wish I could enjoy my successes more, and let go of my failures easier.
Thoughts?
I can relate, or I should say at one pint could relate. After having 3 children and beign faced with a number of hurdles over the past few years,I have learned to give up on the idea that everything has to be perfect. By doing this, It enables me to enjoy each day in a much more positive way without out all the stress that comes along with the idea of being perfect. So, my suggestion to you would be to try and take baby steps towards letting things go one by one. Just a little at a time.. and you will see a nice positive change. I wish you the best.
Mea
__________________ "Always keep an open mind and a compassionate heart"
Don't fight yourself. Embrace the qualities you have and try to apply them to a skill where your attribute is needed - there are lots of them.
If you look, you will see that the demand for perfectionists are greater than the supply. Find things that fit your style, not the other way around.
For example, you feel that certain ways of learning works better than others while others works less well. In the same way your "personality", as we can call your perfectionism, is what works best for you, and probably feels best too. Just because society hasn't made this attribute in people as romantic as it has the chaotic/random attribute does not mean it's true.
What I am trying to say is, focus on things that play by your rules, not the other way around.
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