Ok, so I'm not really here for advice. I just need to let this out. I have a 14 (almost 15) year old daughter from my first marriage. I have been the sole consistent parent to her her whole life (her father is in the Reserves & has served numerous tours during the war - both in Iraq & Afghanistan). We have never been apart for more than 2 weeks, when she traveled with my parents overseas.
She has been gone since 7/9, traveling with her father (his having recently returned from the Afghanistan tour).
She called me last night, homesick, crying (I won't go in to why, as I try very hard never to bad-mouth her father), and I felt so helpless. She is not due back home til Aug. 1 & I MISS MY GIRL!!!!
Ok, HsMomma, the whiny-butt, is done. I just had to get it out.
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Thank you both! I guess I was fishing for sympathy (BAD, HsMomma, BAD GIRL!). I know it's less than 2 more weeks - I just sorta feel that kind of phantom pain you hear about when someone has a limb removed - like a part of me is missing. These next couple of weeks can't go by nearly fast enough to suit me.
I appreciate the caring & nobody giving me an online swift kick to the butt for my whining!
Next time you talk to her, encourage her to just enjoy herself and have fun, that's OK to be homesick, but she's with people who love her, not to let her tears and saddness get in the way. And, let her know you'll be there at the airport waiting for her!
Vent away, that's what this place is for. Going along BNB's train of thought - Have you read my rants/complaints? I'm a master of it as well.
Next time you talk to her, encourage her to just enjoy herself and have fun, that's OK to be homesick, but she's with people who love her, not to let her tears and saddness get in the way. And, let her know you'll be there at the airport waiting for her!
Vent away, that's what this place is for. Going along BNB's train of thought - Have you read my rants/complaints? I'm a master of it as well.
Yup, she's as good as she says she is we love company.
Y'all are funny! Yeah, I've been staying as upbeat with her as I know how - encouraging her to make the most of this trip, as it's the chance of a lifetime (they are halfway around the world from home - literally). It's hard on her, though, because she has never spent any prolonged time with either her father or his side of the family (his side of the family because they live around the world from us). And, the bigger issue is...she's a mini-me in personality - my exH is my EX for a reason & most of his family think I'm the antichrist, so it's a bit difficult for her, I'm sure. She's having to suppress to a great extent who she is, because they are not like us - they are a very staid people who don't show much emotion, don't believe in really saying what they think/feel, and who judge others by incredibly harsh rules.
I encouraged this trip in the hopes that she & her father might forge a relationship now that she's becoming a young woman instead of a little girl - sounds like they're having a bit of a tough time of it. I just have to believe that I've succeeded in raising her as a moral, kind, loving girl who is strong enough in herself to stand up to any bullying that comes her way.
Not that I've been counting or anything, but...we're almost there! 7 days & 7.5 hours left & she'll be home
We've been able to keep in touch via emails but I've spoken with her on the phone only once. I have a feeling next Saturday night's gonna be a LONG one with so much to catch up on. That's ok - I'd stay up all night - just wanna get my girl home safely & be able to catch up on my "baby girl hugs"!
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is done. I just had to get it out.
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