[Sunflower]

Alright, what is going on when a guy you know keeps blocking and then unblocking a potential love interest online on chat??

ok so a girl friend and I have a mutual guy friend. To me, he's just a pal, but I definitely know something more is going on between the two of them, and man I wish them the best!! But...problem:

Since a whole bunch of people including the girl friend and I have this dude's screen name, we found out he's been blocking and unblocking his potential love-interest ( my gal pal) like crazy and talking to her when she's "unblocked" and then blocking her for awhile...it's not like we are sitting around like paranoid psychopaths wondering who's blocking who but the guy has been acting so sketchy ( he's usually very consistent about everything) so we all sort of caught on when the girl felt suspicious... and when we would see him online and she couldn't...ho hum...anyway, she isn't exactly the happiest person right now.. ( we're all friends by the way just in case you were wondering...)

What is he up to? He's a real cool guy, we don't know why he is acting so strange with her and we are all definitely sure he is blocking her...any advice, especially from a guy's point of view? I don't know want to think he has become Mr. Evil or something all of a sudden...and that's the main way she (and we all ) mostly keep in touch with him since he's in another part of the world.

I really care about my friend, so I just want to give her the best advice I can, but I'm stumped! This is very new and weird to me myself....

thanks!!

[Tony T]

The man is entititled to block anybody he wants to for whatever reason he wants to. I usually block people because I'm not in the mood to talk to them.

People who think they are having serious relationships online are a taco short of a combination platter.

If you really want to know exactly why this man is conducting himself as he is with the blocking activity, hook him up to a polygraph and keep asking him his reason for doing this until the polygraph shows he is telling the truth.

Meanwhile, as I said before, he has an absolute right to block people. IMs can be a real pain in the ass and certainly an invasion of privacy when you're trying to get stuff done on the computer.

[ThisGirlNameKD]

Sometimes we read too much into people's actions and try to assume what they're thinking or why they are doing certain things. I agree with the other posting. People put blocks on when they're not in the mood to talking to someone. Sometimes people get on line just to surf or do research or whatever and they're not in the mood to talk period. Or sometimes they maybe talking to someone else and don't want to carry on two conversations at one time. Does he IM you when he has your friend blocked? If so, why don't you just tell him that sometimes when you're online so-and-so can not see you like I do. And see what he says.

[Ladybug313]

"but the guy has been acting so sketchy ( he's usually very consistent about everything) so we all sort of caught on when the girl felt suspicious... and when we would see him online and she couldn't...ho hum...anyway, she isn't exactly the happiest person right now.."

>> I don't mean to sound rude or anything, but to deem someone as acting 'sketchy' just cuz he/she is blocking someone, potential love interest or not, is kind of judgmental. He might just want to be polite and not have your friend wondering why he's not talking to her if he's online because he could be busy talking to someone else. Like when he is talking to you. Or he may just not feel like chatting with her at that particular time and it's easier to just block her for a bit.

"What is he up to? He's a real cool guy, we don't know why he is acting so strange with her and we are all definitely sure he is blocking her."
>>I am sure he is a cool guy, and he's not acting strange.
Hope things go well with your friend and him. But let her know there's truly nothing to worry about as long as he's still good with keeping in touch with her, which it sounds like. Take it easy.