Something someone else said got me to thinking about my guy. We've been dating for about 3 months now and it's like nothing I've ever experienced before. I've been spending a lot of time trying to figure everything out. You hear stories all the time about wives who have been married for 20 something years only to one day find out their spouse was gay the whole time. So here are the facts about my guy:
- He's VERY attractive
- Somewhat sensitive (expresses his emotions well, tells me how much cares) but still logical
- He dresses well, likes to shop. Was raised by well-to-do family with lots of money and sort of spoiled, so this may have something to do with it. He has 10 times more shoes than I do.
- He's been going to the same gay club for about 3 years now. The DJ is his neighbor and ALL his friends are gay. He likes the techno music they play. (I also go to this club every weekend, even before we met).
- His best friends treat him like their straight buddy and I never pick up on it being anything more than that. He goes to all the high class gay parties, gets to bang all the straight chicks who go to them.
- He is not afraid to go with me to the club, and show me off to his friends. I think that if he were really gay he'd keep us separate.
- He's very sexual, loves sex and appears to love women. Has been with about 30 girls.
- There are a few guys that like him so much that they text him constantly, and he sort of leads them on (texting "hey baby" or whatever). However he never hides this from me and shows me what he says. We just laugh about it.
I would be more concerned about what you might catch, than what his sexual persuasion is!
Whoever he's sleeping with - then so are you!
Who cares what he is?
He's promiscuous! That alone, and where he picks them up, would set every alarm bell ringing for me!
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I would be more concerned about what you might catch, than what his sexual persuasion is!
Whoever he's sleeping with - then so are you!
Who cares what he is?
He's promiscuous! That alone, and where he picks them up, would set every alarm bell ringing for me!
Nem - I live in a very gay neighbourhood so know a lot of guys like this - supposedly straight guys who love mixing in the gay scene. I think most of them are just attention whores. I've done it myself - I get a few of the lipstick lesbians cracking onto me and instead of letting them know from the get-go that I'm straight, I lead them on because I'm egocentric.
Have your fun with this guy but he's no keeper.
Last edited by LoveShack.org Moderator; 4th July 2009 at 10:19 AM..
hmm, i would suspect latent bi-sexual. and no i'm not in any way suggesting that there's anything wrong with that. if anything, he should be open about it and not cheapen his nature with some lame 'just being metro' excuse.
- He's been going to the same gay club for about 3 years now. The DJ is his neighbor and ALL his friends are gay.
This is the redest of flags IMHO.
If everything you said is accurate, I think he does likes the ladies. However, there could be a good possibility that he's bi, or at the very least, bi-curious, but who knows. Not to sound stereotypical, but does he speak with a lisp?
What do your friends think? Would it bother you if he were indeed bi?
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I would be more concerned about what you might catch, than what his sexual persuasion is!
Whoever he's sleeping with - then so are you!
Who cares what he is?
He's promiscuous! That alone, and where he picks them up, would set every alarm bell ringing for me!
lol, sorry to be vague. He was doing this before I met him. Now we are monogamous.
And promiscuous? Really? He's a very attractive 21 year old, almost out of college, who's slept with approximately 30 women. That's about average, maybe a little high. Certainly not promiscuous - just sexually confident.
To other posters, no it certainly would not bother me in the least if he were bisexual. I am bi as well, so I'd completely understand and accept it. I just want him to admit it!
He's admitted to me that he's gotten drunk and made out with a few guys, but he said nothing has ever gone further. When we go to the club, he'll dance with some of his gay guy friends and they humor him as if he were a little brother. He's very open about things with me and doesn't hide it. I think maybe he's just really confident in his sexuality.
Our sex life is amazing, so I really don't think he's gay. He does NOT talk with a lisp, and in many ways is very masculine (in his appearance and his attitude toward sex). So I'm not too worried. But recently some comments have made me nervous.
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