GUYS .. how do you treat girls that are just friends
differently from girls you are interested in?
i'm not sure if the guy I like LIKES me or is just nice/friendly
If he is flirting, he might be interested, but you have to flirt back. You cant be subtle about it. He might be waiting for cues from you.
If he keeps up the flirting and asks you for your number, hes interested.
If he doesnt flirt back, then you know hes not interested.
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If he is flirting, he might be interested, but you have to flirt back. You cant be subtle about it. He might be waiting for cues from you.
If he keeps up the flirting and asks you for your number, hes interested.
If he doesnt flirt back, then you know hes not interested.
sorry I forgot to mention we're already friends
yes he flirts, yes he looks into my eyes
we talk (IM or text) everyday, but idk if it's out of
kindness (cause he's a nice guy) or something more ..
So push it to the next level. Go make a date. Once you get to the date, make some moves. You gonna wait forever for HIM to give you a hint? Youre both too chicken to take a risk.
So push it to the next level. Go make a date. Once you get to the date, make some moves. You gonna wait forever for HIM to give you a hint? Youre both too chicken to take a risk.
no no, he just recently got out of a 1.5 year relationship .. i'm not sure he's ready
As long as your friend knows you're single, if he's truly attracted to you, he will act in a way which separates you out from the pack and focuses strictly on you. Usually, this is done by asking you out on a date. If he doesn't, he's not sufficiently attracted to overcome any inhibitions he might otherwise have. If you see him as a long-term prospect, that isn't a good sign, as it indicates the propensity for an unbalanced relationship. Further, when a man is interested less, he is more likely to notice someone else, leading to more imbalance. Unhealthiness results.
If he's young and inexperienced, he gets one pass (in the romantic sense) from you. That's it. If he doesn't get it then, move on
Edited to add, since he's just out of a R, he's not truly single, unless he was the dumper and was emotionally detached prior to the end of the R. I'd leave this one be for now.
As long as your friend knows you're single, if he's truly attracted to you, he will act in a way which separates you out from the pack and focuses strictly on you. Usually, this is done by asking you out on a date. If he doesn't, he's not sufficiently attracted to overcome any inhibitions he might otherwise have. If you see him as a long-term prospect, that isn't a good sign, as it indicates the propensity for an unbalanced relationship. Further, when a man is interested less, he is more likely to notice someone else, leading to more imbalance. Unhealthiness results.
If he's young and inexperienced, he gets one pass (in the romantic sense) from you. That's it. If he doesn't get it then, move on
Edited to add, since he's just out of a R, he's not truly single, unless he was the dumper and was emotionally detached prior to the end of the R. I'd leave this one be for now.
it was a mutual break-up but I think he was more into the relationship than she was
idk he keeps saying we need to hang out .. w/e that means
Wow, I don't know what to say to this one because I was in a relationship for 6 years and I was engaged. One month after he purposed he left me and he was talking to 2 other girls when he decided to leave me! he actually started talking to them right after he purposed.. hmmmm... anyways he and I are actually good friends now, one of the girls was interested in him but he didn't see her that way, that was hard to beleive with hundreds of text messages back and forth between the two.
Anywhoo I think you should back off a bit because from what I noticed with my ex, I was not giving him the attention he wanted Men love having their ego boosted and I never gave him that, so he just wanted attention and I think this may be similar to your situation. He just got out of a relationship that he prolly was not very satisfied with and he is turning to you for that attention. I do say to back off a little, when he texts or calls or emails wait do not respond right away if he is really interested in you and only you he will continue to pursue you but back off and I also agree that a month is a good amount of time and try not to give him all of that attention he is looking for that will be a test to see if he really does like you.
If you know hes not ready, leave him alone. Youre a tampon to him now, and you will probably be that way for months. If hes not ready, you are probably putting yourself in the friend zone with him, then you will NEVER get what you want. Tell him you need him to stop contacting you until he is ready to date you.
Wow, I don't know what to say to this one because I was in a relationship for 6 years and I was engaged. One month after he purposed he left me and he was talking to 2 other girls when he decided to leave me! he actually started talking to them right after he purposed.. hmmmm... anyways he and I are actually good friends now, one of the girls was interested in him but he didn't see her that way, that was hard to beleive with hundreds of text messages back and forth between the two.
Anywhoo I think you should back off a bit because from what I noticed with my ex, I was not giving him the attention he wanted Men love having their ego boosted and I never gave him that, so he just wanted attention and I think this may be similar to your situation. He just got out of a relationship that he prolly was not very satisfied with and he is turning to you for that attention. I do say to back off a little, when he texts or calls or emails wait do not respond right away if he is really interested in you and only you he will continue to pursue you but back off and I also agree that a month is a good amount of time and try not to give him all of that attention he is looking for that will be a test to see if he really does like you.
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Originally Posted by boogieboy
If you know hes not ready, leave him alone. Youre a tampon to him now, and you will probably be that way for months. If hes not ready, you are probably putting yourself in the friend zone with him, then you will NEVER get what you want. Tell him you need him to stop contacting you until he is ready to date you.
we were talking before he got into the relationship with her & then of course while he was in the relationship with her I backed off & dated other guys (none worked out & he was always in the back of my mind) but anyway I don't think of myself as a "sponge" & I always had a feeling he was keeping me near because he knew their relationship wasnt going to work out .. of course I could be wrong I guess only time will tell
PS: men aren't the only ones that like attention ;p
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Too nice or interested?
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