HI,
Well I was wondering is there love at first sight or not? I met this guy a the minute i met him i felt weak, he did too bythe way
thankl you

[Tony T]

I think you can feel a very strong physical or spiritual connection to somebody when you first meet them but that, in itself, does not constitute love. There is no love at first sight although the symptoms do mimic those of being in love.

True love has to grow as you get to know someone, their interests, their philosophies or positions on various important matters, their habits, etc.

Being smitten by someone where it seems there is a soul connection can certainly happen and many times these end up to be excellent situations. Sometimes they are nightmares. Chemistry, which causes these reactions for the most part, often changes. You can be very attracted to someone initially who is very wrong for you. Just ask around...

It's a great feeling and you have lots of hope when it happens. It's happened to me a number of times. Some romances ensued...some lifetime friendships were made...and some I've never seen again.

Back to your question, I guess it really depends on what your definition of love is. However, unless you enjoy living very dangerously get to know someone very well over a long period of time before you throw heart and soul into that person...no matter what kind of fireworks there were when your eyes first met.

I pray that this will be a very good relationship for you as it progresses. And congratulations on the experience. It is wonderful!!!

[midori]

I agree with all of the above.

Moreover, I think we sometimes feel smitten when the person in question not only attracts us physically/spiritually/etc. but they also appear to fill a particular hole in our lives.

E.g., you've been feeling lonely for a while and it's been wearing on you, when suddenly you meet this guy and your feelings of loneliness go away. Or, say you've been itching to get away from the place you've lived in all your life, but you don't know how you'd do it, where you'd go, etc. If you meet someone who lives in another place (one you'd like to be in), or who travels a lot, they're going to be strongly appealing for those reasons. Those reasons don't have anything to do with your relationship with the person in question, they're separate issues really, but they add to the intensity of your feelings for that person. They might even confuse you so that you think that what you're feeling is elicited by the person, when in fact your feelings are mostly about these other issues.

Someone you like and would like to be intimate with: attractive
Someone you like and would like to be intimate with AND who offers you solutions to other issues you've been grappling with: very very attractive.

But Tony's right: real love, genuine love of another person, takes time to grow.