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i'll try and be as brief as possible.

i really kind of afraid i'm becoming a rebound for someone i've known for about ten years. i've had a crush on her for this long and finally, an opportunity to ask her out. only thing, her life is in total instability right now. i've also had the pleasure of having friends that remind me how flaky this person has behaved in the past, with regards to guys. i also know that her ex was abusive and just kind of a bad risk (shady, nuts) all around.

the idea of just breaking this off is just devastating, cause, like i said, i've wanted to ask her out for years. and there are sparks happening, or is it more likely desperation or loneliness on her part. there is a good bit of attraction, physical and emotional, and we have had sex, which felt totally unweird up until i started to just get anxious about the whole situation.

i'm pretty sure that there's been a mutual attraction for a long time though. i just know that there have been two other occassions of really nice guys in between the rotten ones and i seem to be following a real *******. AND it seems as if she stays with the rotten ones longer. old saying that you get tired of real fast in this situation- nice guys finish last, aaaggghh.

i'm just worried and scared, cause, she's seems to be cooling off a little, but, hasnt indicated any breakup.

what on earth do i do. is breaking up the only solution? i kinda hope not. i really dont want to just be part of a pattern. are there ways of knowing or making the proper judgement in regards to maintaining a "more than friendly relationship". i realize you have to be friends and behave that way, but i'm SMITTEN. sigh