Future with an addict?

amybett

My boyfriend and I have been living together for 3 months and dating for 2 1/2 years, (I'm 29 he's 31) with plans for marriage and children. Since moving in, he has chosen to relapse with one gambling binge and also one bout of drinking before work, (to deal with the newfound stresses of living together). Both are unacceptable to me.
I knew of his addiction, rehab and recovery from meth / crack / coke / gambling / beer / marijuana when we began dating, and never imagined I would have to deal with a relapse or slip up! (ignorant maybe??) I admired him for putting his addictions behind him,(clean for 4 years) and for keeping addictions in the past. But since the relapses, I have seen him as pathetic and have lost respect for him, and have treated him badly.
I've asked him to leave, thinking that I can't willingly "sign up" for the potential futures I see, or could imagine for us. I don't want to search hiding places, smell his breath, count his money, and live in anxiety for the rest of our lives simply waiting for the next mistake. But love and ideas of second chances are keeping me on the fence, unable to decide if it should end....I'm feeling lost, I just don't know if I can handle this, he says he wants something better with me, and is willing to go to meetings again, and even start couples counseling, but that dosen't kill the demonds, does it...I also don't want to be the pillar of strength, because he can't be one for me in return. I can't be the reason he looks to for wanting a better life. He should want that on his own.
I would appreciate advice/wisdom for either argument:
A) Removing him from my life now.
B) Continuing life with an addict.
Thanks to all and strength for everyone.