i got drunk last night with a girl that i really like and we talked for a while and smoked a joint together but i got so ****ed up that i forgot everything she told me, she said something about just starting out as friends, but thats all i can remember. what should i say to her to find out whats going on without sounding like a total *******?

[Tony T]

Just write off last night. Tell her straight away that because you had a few drinks you have forgotten some of the details and have her fill you it. I'm sure she wouldn't have layed any real heave stuff on you while you were in a drunken stupor.

I would just forget about the whole thing and play it by ear. I promise you, if she brought up anything really important she'll bring it up again absent a response from you.

The important thing to remember from what she said is that she is wanting to start out as friends. That may be her way of telling you she doesn't like to get serious with guys who get wasted away on alcohol and marijuana while she is wanting quality male attention.

gee. drunk and stoned? sounds like you likely made a great first impression. not. do you always get wasted on a monday night? maybe the problem isn't that you don't remember what you discussed with this girl. maybe the problem is that you have a substance abuse problem and you need to get some help. being sober isn't all that bad. i suppose in dealing with her, you could just tell her that you're an addict and you blacked out and can't remember what the hell she said to you. that should really charm her. heh heh

i got drunk last night with a girl that i really like and we talked for a while and smoked a joint together but i got so ****ed up that i forgot everything she told me, she said something about just starting out as friends, but thats all i can remember. what should i say to her to find out whats going on without sounding like a total *******?

i do not have a substance problem, notice i said we got drunk and high together, monday night is the only night we had off together this week. i just drank a little too much and cant rember what all we talked about. also, ##### you for judging me, i know how to controll myself

Ryan

gee. drunk and stoned? sounds like you likely
made a great first impression. not. do you always
get wasted on a monday night? maybe the problem
isn't that you don't remember what you discussed
with this girl. maybe the problem is that you
have a substance abuse problem and you need to
get some help. being sober isn't all that bad.
i suppose in dealing with her, you could just
tell her that you're an addict and you blacked
out and can't remember what the hell she said
to you. that should really charm her. heh heh

Well then maybe you both have a substance problem. So what if you Monday is your only night off. Does that mean you have to get wasted? And you claim you're so in control. Well if that's true then why are you here, calling yourself a 'stupid ass' and admitting that you were so plastered that you can't even remember the conversation you had with her? heh heh. As for me judging you, bite me You asked for opinions, I gave you mine. Not my problem if you're offended by it. And if she was as drunk and stoned as you were, then what's so hard about telling her that the whole night was a blur and that you killed so many brain cells that you forgot the conversation? If you do tell her this, try being sober and see what it's like. You might actually like it. xoxo

[Melissa]

to I honestly beleive that that was a little bit harsh what you said to the guy. He only came here to ask you for help on a situation that happened on Monday night, not for you to tell him that his life is stuffed up becuase he is a supposed "substance" abuser, for all you know it may have been the first time that he every tried pot. But I beleive you owe him an apology, I read your post and got quite annoyed with you.

People come here to ask for help on a particular situation, it is not up to other people to assume things.

If Monday is his only day off, then maybe he was just realxing and having a good time, you cant tell me that you do not go out on a weekend, and sometimes drink, or have a late night??

Yeah, being sober is better than getting yourself trashed, but did he mention to you that he was doing this every night? Then if that is the case then he has a substance problem.

To the "stupid ass" just be honest with her, i'm sure that she may not remeber exactly what went on if she was in the same state as her, just make sure you dont make a habit of this. As it will put her off.

Well then maybe you both have a substance problem. So what if you Monday is your only night off. Does that mean you have to get wasted? And you claim you're so in control. Well if that's true then why are you here, calling yourself a 'stupid ass' and admitting that you were so plastered that you can't even remember the conversation you had with her? heh heh. As for me judging you, bite me You asked for opinions, I gave you mine. Not my problem if you're offended by it. And if she was as drunk and stoned as you were, then what's so hard about telling her that the whole night was a blur and that you killed so many brain cells that you forgot the conversation? If you do tell her this, try being sober and see what it's like. You might actually like it. xoxo