Has anyone experienced when your ex keep texting me things as if we are friends or something? He broke up with me. I did not want it but of course I accepted it after 3 years. I am still trying to get over it so he comes texting me things like
How is your week going since you went back to work?.....I did not respond
the next text is
Hey you busy, I need you to help me with my computer.....I did not respond
I dont get it....he is the ex....he broke up with me....I have not spoken to him for about a 2 weeks now.....he acts like it is nothing.
My thing is why do you keep texting me? Are you trying to be friends? are you trying to make me feel better? are you too hard to say I miss you?
Has anyone experienced this? It makes me feel good and bad at the same time. I dont want to respond cause I think I am going to get my feelings hurt cause he is going to say....I was just checking on you...that all.
If he really missed me, he would say something more or come on stronger. This is bull.
lol, just woke up and read "thongs," not "things"!
okay, my 2 cents? I think he thinks that because enough time has passed, you've conveniently forgotten the fact that he broke up with you and that he broke your heart. Instead, it seems that he's gone into big, dumb, friendly puppy mode and thinks EVERYone is his friend, including the girl he dumped.
am not the sharpest knife in the drawer when it comes to texting, but is there a way you can block his messages? That'd cut down on the annoyance factor.
In my opinion, he is missing you. He sees that you're not responding and its KILLING him. DONT RESPOND! Its his way of hinting that he still cares for you and is trying to keep the lines of communication open in the event that he wants you back. Ignoring him will only make him want you more.
In my opinion, he is missing you. He sees that you're not responding and its KILLING him. DONT RESPOND! Its his way of hinting that he still cares for you and is trying to keep the lines of communication open in the event that he wants you back. Ignoring him will only make him want you more.
Okay, I hope you are right. I have no intention in contacting him because I really dont want to get my feelings hurt and after all....he dumped me....I aint going to run after him. I dont want to talk!!!
I agree with unknown, my ex still calls me every single day, and regardless how many days have gone by that I don't pick up his calls, he eventually blocks his number so I end up answering the phone.
When his sneaky trick works, he tells me in weird ways of wishing things were back to the way they were, or just the way he talks.
And trust me, u kno why they do that? They notice that youre not calling or saying anything or responding to it, and idk its just some sick game to boost their egos if u ask me.
Like today, he had the nerve to call me like almost 10 times throughout the whole day. I finally answered tonight thinking something terrible happened to him coz I still care deeply. But it ended up being him saying how much he misses me, asking if I still love him... blah blah.
And in the end, the fact still remains = he is still with that girl.
I just don't get it...
so don't feel ur thinking weird about his texts, coz ur definitely not the only one. I only wish I knew what their true intentions were...
so don't feel ur thinking weird about his texts, coz ur definitely not the only one. I only wish I knew what their true intentions were...
Exactly!! What are your intention. Have you asked your ex what is this about? If he is calling you 10 times in a day....seems like to me, he wants you back. Do you not want to get back with him?
My ex did similar things for a span of about 6 months after we broke up after 4 years. She would send me random texts here and there. I replied at first, but then I slowly grew my back bone back and stop replying al together. it drove her insane, and she started sending me more serious texts asking if we could talk....then there were moments where we would run into each other at parties and such and I wouldn't say a word to her...and she would flip even more. We eventually got back together around xmas of last year and it lasted a month. She told me that she need to be single and figure herself out...blah blah....she got back together with the same guy she left me for. The same guy she ditched to get back together with me a week before xmas. Now I wouldn't have gotten back together with her if she hadn't sent me an email saying that she made the biggest mistake of her life leaving me, basically saying everything I had been waiting to hear for 6 months.
Be very careful...I agree, he's probably texting you because he misses you. And the less contact you have with him the better. He'll go insane, and you'll be able to get yourself together. I wasn't any where near being all together when I got back together with my ex. I made the wrong choice and I should have never gotten back together with her. But it's easier said then done, when you're with someone for such a long time, it's hard to turn on them and never look back.....I'm not looking back now...
So basically, he is trying to turn me into his friend?
I'm not happy about that, cause I still love him
Therre is a way. There's always a way.
I take it you have 'alert' as to who's texting you?
Change the name of alert to "damn pest again!!" And just delete it.
Don't even read it.
Be strong, do this for yourself.
Don't be his friend until you are ready.
He broke up with you and you weren't ready for it.
He's trying to get back on friendly terms - and you're not ready for it.
Do this, on YOUR terms.
You know, he's whatever-age he is, but sometimes, men don't get past 9.
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Don't be his friend until you are ready.
He broke up with you and you weren't ready for it.
He's trying to get back on friendly terms - and you're not ready for it.
Do this, on YOUR terms.
You know, he's whatever-age he is, but sometimes, men don't get past 9.
Yes, everything from this point is going to be on MY TERMS. Right now I am not feeling this friend thing and I find it to be a insult. Why do I want to be friends with someone I love. I think they dont want to completely let go for selfish reasons. I want him back and until I can get over it....I will not be dealing with him....it is for my own good.
I think they dont want to completely let go for selfish reasons.
Correct, and I would implore you to examine why you would entertain the thought of being with or continuing with such a person
Remember, love resides within you; it is within your capacity. It has nothing to do with him. His actions and words have spoken for him. Now it's your time....
I will have to think about this. I dont know why I want to get back with someone who really did not make me happy. I was not satisfied because he was not giving 100 percent. It was hard. I feel like crying because I feel confused and weird with in myself.
Read the NC threads linked in my signature. You can, with hard work, change those feelings within yourself and rebuild your capacity to love in a healthy way. Your words say you know what your path is, IMO.
Im not confused about what I want. I am hurting cause I still love someone who did not treat me good and I still want him back. i Know that NC is for me and that is really all it should be for. I wish that thru this time apart that he will realize that he was not treating as well as he could have and realize that he does love me and wants to give me his best. That's the truth.
Here's my thing....I am not going to do anything to influence that decision though. I am doing NC for me but I do hope that it will change our relationship to a better one. If it doesnt then being in my own world is going to be fine anyway. If he does, it still puts me a advantage cause I can see how sincere he is or if he really wants to put our relationship back on track....Either way it goes....I am doing NC for me
I just hope we get back together and the relationship is what it use to be before it all changed. We had a lot in common and he use to be crazy about me.
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