[starborne82]

long story short, me and one of my closest friends dated over the summer before senior year in college, although it was never official because he never wanted it to be.
he had issues wt commitment but i was so in love wt him it didnt bother me.he would sometimes not be the ''mood'' to act like we were a couple and we had arguments about it, but we stayed together.
Throughout the summer there had been signs it was going to end, but i tried to hold on to our relationship.As the days passed though, i came to terms that he wasnt as interested, so we unspokenly began to end.
A couple days before college,we broke up at the end of a great day together, and he had told me previously that he had wanted this day to be our last day together, and i foolishly went along with it.

weve had some space for over a month, and ive just started talking to him recently again, and he still considers me his best friend, meaning i get the info on his drunk hookups and now a new girl hes dating. i want to stay close friends wt him but at the same time it kills me to hear him talk about his new gf, esp wen i never wanted us to end. help?

[Geishawhelk]

Do you know what his back looks like...?
he keeps showing it to you....
I'd show him yours too... receding into the distance.

You need to cut and walk. In the opposirte direction.
Sorry to be harsh, but there's a nice big world out there with loads of other people looking for a love of their life.

Keep going, keep your eyes peeled, and smile.

[i11]

FWB (friends with benefits) could be his option, and you want the commitment. I guess you two will never reach an agreement in the predictable period.
As long as you are around his life, the situation will hardly get changed , and you will stay in pain as one of his "friend" and keep hiding your adoration to him. One day you will realize that after so many years' waiting come out nothing, you've already waste too much precious life time and have to give up and find someone who loves you and you want to love back. The sooner you get rid of this weird "friendship", the earlier you could have a fresh start of your new life. Let's say, that's the price of growing up we have to pay.

[CoryCosmetics]

Cut your losses early and save yourself some heartache. I know, easier said than done. But in the long run you are just scrificing yourself and what you really deserve for someone that doens't want the same thing/s.