[MichiganMan222]

We broke up after two years because we didn't have much time together due to things going on in our lives. She didn't want a 'part-time' boyfriend. We had great sex and says she loves me more than I could imagine and probably will forever. She admitted it killed her to let me go. She found a companion, but told me she was not romantically nor physically interested in him. He was a close friend that had no responsibilities in his life and was able to entertain her whenever she wanted. But she isn't attracted to him at all (and I believe that). A mutual friend told me she said she wished she could combine the two if us into a new man. The sentimental side of him and sexual side of me. I was a little hurt by this because I am a very affectionate person. Anyway, ever after the break-up, she'll call me at night to have sex. I'm not seeing anyone yet and really haven't even tried....so I agree to it. The sex is just like always. Very passionate, very hot....not just lust, but love. Kisses and candles type thing. When its over, she goes home and I don't hear much from her. If you were in my position, would you let this continue? I want her back...all of her. I want to be her companion. Yeah our schedules conflict, but its temporary. I feel like she's throwing away a possible lifetime for two people that love each other, because of scheduling conflicts. Before you tell me she really doesn't love me, I assure you she does. I met someone for drinks recently and she went crazy when she found out. Acted like I was cheating on her even though we are split up.

[Konfuzion]

If I were you I would completely stop talking to her and defiantly knock off answering to her beck and call for sex. Right now she is having her cake and eating it too. Cut her out of your life and she will probably realize what a mistake she has made. As long as you go along with the way things are now, she will use you until she finds someone else to take your place.

[JooLee]

well first of all, what she's doing is selfish.
i bet she loves you, but you're not giving her what she needs. which is the companionship. i dont understand though how she could be with the other guy for companionship only. its a little sad.
my advice for you is to be straight up to her about how you feel and tell her if its all or nothing.
this is some twisted situation.

[MichiganMan222]

The thing is, I really want her back. I'm afraid if I give up the small piece of her I'm getting, I will end up with nothing. Honestly, I struggle with which I would rather have...the companionship/attention...or the short highs of pleasuring her (and her me). Its a gamble....she will either realize what she's missing as you say, or actively seek someone else. I don't know what to do. Take what I can get, or go for it while risking losing everything. EEEEEEK!!! I hate this! Why doesn't she just try to make it work??? After the initial break-up, she couldn't even go 24 hours without texting me and tell me this breakup was ripping her to pieces...and she was the dumper!!!!!

[MichiganMan222]

Update: Sat night we had a pre-planned event. Despite being apart, we honored it as our late official 'date'. We also agreed sex was a bad idea. So today we met for a final exchange of belongings stating this was it...no more contact. Not even 3 hours later she TX's me and says "this is awful"

Remember, she is the dumper....I want her back....should I respond? And with what?