[OneWay]

Hello,
I'm 18 years old and I got some serious issues.
I'm in love with her more than 3 years, since the 10th grade.
Our relationship wasn't close enough... I have helped her in Math & English tests (and finals of cures)... and that it, we had some (really really) short chats... .
Now (well on June) we have finished school and I've realized that I won't see her again and my love to her become to suffering, as much as I try to fall out, I fell in deeper and can't stop thinking about her...

I asked some of my workmates/ friends what should I do and they told me that this is lost - "the train has gone", that she is not from my species - and this is so true, we are absolutely different people, she likes more clubs, discos and all the crowded places, I rather some quiet ones, like restaurant, or walking throughout the beach - where there is no one but US, but this is not the point, after I heard what they had to advice, I decided to move on (even though I don't like that idea but this is the own way to go on with my life and meet other girls) and not live her life.
I tried many functions to move on, like hanging out with some friends, meet other ladies (I'll talk about that later), applying a job - but none of them have helped me, I'm thinking about her every time and it's like killing me because she is my first love and I didn't do enough to get along with her even though she got boy-freind . Hope that the army will do its.

Can someone please give me some advices, ways to how get over (fall out), I'd like it to be like "once upon a time", put it behind me and move on.

Also, during that time, I wasn't it touch with any woman, because I am too afraid to get closer, I must say I'm pretty shy in front of the ladies, and don't know how to act or what to say (never had a girl so I'm pretty new..), when I try so after some minutes I don't have what to say or it goes very lame, both; online and face to face.

How can I solve that issue?.
'cause I'm very desperate being unable to communicate with women.

[UnamedSeven]

Originally Posted by OneWay

Hello,
I'm 18 years old and I got some serious issues.
I'm in love with her more than 3 years, since the 10th grade.
Our relationship wasn't close enough... I have helped her in Math & English tests (and finals of cures)... and that it, we had some (really really) short chats... .
Now (well on June) we have finished school and I've realized that I won't see her again and my love to her become to suffering, as much as I try to fall out, I fell in deeper and can't stop thinking about her...

I asked some of my workmates/ friends what should I do and they told me that this is lost - "the train has gone", that she is not from my species - and this is so true, we are absolutely different people, she likes more clubs, discos and all the crowded places, I rather some quiet ones, like restaurant, or walking throughout the beach - where there is no one but US, but this is not the point, after I heard what they had to advice, I decided to move on (even though I don't like that idea but this is the own way to go on with my life and meet other girls) and not live her life.
I tried many functions to move on, like hanging out with some friends, meet other ladies (I'll talk about that later), applying a job - but none of them have helped me, I'm thinking about her every time and it's like killing me because she is my first love and I didn't do enough to get along with her even though she got boy-freind . Hope that the army will do its.

Can someone please give me some advices, ways to how get over (fall out), I'd like it to be like "once upon a time", put it behind me and move on.

Also, during that time, I wasn't it touch with any woman, because I am too afraid to get closer, I must say I'm pretty shy in front of the ladies, and don't know how to act or what to say (never had a girl so I'm pretty new..), when I try so after some minutes I don't have what to say or it goes very lame, both; online and face to face.

How can I solve that issue?.
'cause I'm very desperate being unable to communicate with women.

Its very hard to get over your first love. What i did, i completely preoccupied myself with a lot of things. I know your not in school anymore, but you should try to get fully absorbed into something that you like doing.
I suffered through depression twice and i couldn't let anyone in. I would never want to see someone, go through what i was through. The key to this, and i never believed this until just recently, time heals all damage.

[OneWay]

Thanks for your reply.
I guess that I'm living with the guilty that I didn't do enough, all the time asked myself "what if...", you know..
Eh, anyway, I'll start to occupy myself more..

[UnamedSeven]

Originally Posted by OneWay

Thanks for your reply.
I guess that I'm living with the guilty that I didn't do enough, all the time asked myself "what if...", you know..
Eh, anyway, I'll start to occupy myself more..

Honestly, this is not your fault. I know it feels like you didn't do enough, but if you did, "too much" it could have destroyed your friendship with her.