Nightmares about Ex

SoundTribe · 6th October 2008, 9:11 PM

I keep having consistent nightmares about my ex every night. In the beginning I remembered these dreams vividly and woke up very upset, but now I wake up in the morning and do not remember the nightmares but I know that I have had them because I am very upset upon awakening. Has anybody else experienced nightmares about their ex?

Lishy · 6th October 2008, 9:18 PM

I had one the other night and it ruined my whole day and made me feel so angry at him!

Rooster_DAR · 6th October 2008, 9:19 PM

Oh yeah, they get pretty bad sometimes. It's been over 2 years for me, and I still get them.

Your mind is working things out, that's all.

Cheers!

tokyovogue · 6th October 2008, 9:22 PM

I don't really get them anymore - but the week my ex and I were breaking up + the first week after i was a mess with regards to nightmares, to the point i was afraid of sleeping.

At least, though I'm not 100% healed, those are over.

Rooster_DAR · 6th October 2008, 9:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Lishy

I had one the other night and it ruined my whole day and made me feel so angry at him!

Yeah, I get those once in a while. They either usually do one of two things, piss me off all day or leave me a little sad and indifferent.

ahhhchooo · 6th October 2008, 10:13 PM

For the first 6-8 weeks or so I was having recurring nightmares. I also had stupid dreams that were about nothing other than the fact she wasn't contacting me. Even in completely unrelated dreams, I still felt her absence. It sucks but you get over it, bit by bit.

shayna · 7th October 2008, 1:39 AM

I'm right there with all of you...Mine aren't always nightmares- sometimes we are back together- so I wake up and then it hits me all over again that he's no longer beside me. I dream about him every night even after 16 months. Even if he's not a big part of the dream, his presence is always there. My therapist tells me its because there are still things I haven't dealt with yet. No really???? I think I could have figured that one out myself! Its so sad and annoying at the same time- how are we supposed to get over our ex's when our subconscious wont allow us to???

CherishG · 7th October 2008, 3:45 AM

the first 2 weeks after the breakup, I COULD NOT SLEEP ONE WINK...
I honestly don't know how I did it.
I think all the adrenaline, the shock, the sadness, the denial, it all just
kept my body and mind going on a 24hr clock for about 15 days...
but just last week, my body crashed, I fainted at work (thank god I wasn't in the OR) and I stayed home for 3 days and just slept.
I don't get as much sleep as I used to, but when I did, I had soooo many dreams, or I should say bad, bad nightmares of him.
So bad that I could picture him having sex with his new girl...
Now that I'm starting to have those wicked, horrible dreams, I'm back to not being able to sleep...

Sysyphus28 · 7th October 2008, 9:09 AM

A few times a week I have vivid dreams about bumping into my ex with her new man.............or worse.
It sucks and until I shower, drink coffee, and wake up, it feels like it really just happened.
How horrible is that......pretty F-in horrible.

SoundTribe · 7th October 2008, 11:36 AM

i'm glad i'm not the only one who has experienced the nightmares. My nightmares have gotten to the point that I wake up when my ex leaves me in every nightmare, so I've begun taking Melatonin to prevent myself from waking up and getting a good nights sleep.

justme9 · 7th October 2008, 11:42 AM

i'm glad to hear i'm not the only one either! it seems like every morning i have to regain all of the ground i made the day before since he keeps showing up in my dreams. like shayna said, even if he doesn't actually show his face, i still feel his presence.

i think the worst ones are where we are back together. on the other hand, i love the ones where he tries to contact me and i hold the upper hand. unfortunately those are a bit uncommon lately haha

alwayssme · 7th October 2008, 12:44 PM

i have dreams and nightmares as well. It's the worst. Mornings are bad

Sysyphus28 · 7th October 2008, 1:34 PM

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Originally Posted by alwayssme

i have dreams and nightmares as well. It's the worst. Mornings are bad

I am kind of rebounding and hanging out with other woman....it is great, but in the morning I still think about my ex.
Crap. and I wish it would stop. I gues it just takes time and NC.
It sure isn't easy to do this.

SweetTux · 7th October 2008, 2:52 PM

Yea I still have dreams of my ex also.. Sometimes their really bad and sometimes we're back together. Just last nite i dreamt that we were together and she was just laying in my lap again watching tv. Was really hard waking up this morning... Mornings are definitely the worse time of the day.. Its weird how the day starts bad and gets better and it feels like you are over them than you go to bed and it starts all over again.

tokyovogue · 7th October 2008, 2:55 PM

Last night I had a GREAT dream about a guy in one of my classes. It felt sooo good I didn't want to wake up... the problem? I'm about 90% sure this guy is gay. Hahahhaa oh well, its better to have cute dreams about a gay boy then sad dream about an ex ;p