[nedbulldog]

So, Im 19 years old.Me and a girl started talking about a month ago.Thats just the beginning.Ready for a challenge?Hope so.She was my friend for 10 years's girlfriend. They dated for 4 months.He left for army bootcamp. They broke up.She's bitter. He has changed alot. He comes home in a week. BUT like i said...we have been talking for about a month. I told him how i felt about her last night...and hes got a new gf and doesnt care.Me and the girl work together.I see her a lot. We fight with each other at work, but i apologize every time, just like before we started talking. NOW, we hang out, go out to the club together, hold hands, kissy kissy.No sex. I have known her for a few years now. So, im at this point where i would be trying to get to know a girl, but with her, i already know her. I'm nervous about asking her to be steady with me. Like i havent waited long enough.But, on the same note, I don't want to wait too long. She has had her heart broken a few times the past few months. I told her I would never hurt her. That i would never see her cry again. And, for the first time, I think she believes me now. I can tell her ANYTHING.We talk about EVERYTHING together. We have built a pretty good relationship, and I know she trusts me. I put on a big front, but she breaks it down. It's like i usually hide behind this big wall so i dont get hurt, but with her, theres no hiding. WHAT DO I DO????

[nedbulldog]

Please help!!!

[Davey McG]

Ask her.

If she rejects you its painful, but its better to regret asking someone out than not asking them.

[nedbulldog]

well, she said she didnt know if she was ready to date one of her ex's friends. I told her I didnt know if i was going to be here when she did make up her mind.

I really dont want her to put me on the back burner, knowing i'll stay there, and play her little game. NOT going to happen. So as hard and as painful as it was, I had to man up about it and told her that. Not the back burner stuff, but the I might not be here stuff. It sucks alot. I really like her bunches. I know she wouldn't be unhappy with me. The opposite in fact. I know I could always be there for her. I have said and done all that i can do, and the ball is in her court, as much as i hate that. I have to put a front on right now, show her it doesn't bother me, or she might keep playing these games. IS THERE ANY HOPE FOR US?

[winx717]

well, honestly a month is not a very long time at all. And you said that she has been hurt a few times in the past few months? i think that she needs time to be alone with her feelings for a while. she needs to figure out whether or not she wants a relationship at all right now. I know that it is hard, as i am in a similar situation right now, but you certainly don't want to be a rebound. You need to take time to get to know yourself and what you want out of this. You are young and there will likely be many more girls that come and go. Don't be sad and hang in there! Good luck

[Davey McG]

It's good you told her you may not be there. Keep on keeping on and do what you're doing and if it works then good for you, but if not then you've kept your dignity and can move on.

Good luck!