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My partner of 5 years left me a month ago for someone he had been having an affair with for a few months. They have known each other for years.

He tells everyone how happy he is but will not sit down with me to discuss why this has happened nor will he consider a reconciliation. On the few occasions that he has visited me, he does nothing but cry, and tell me what pain he is in without me and how much he misses me, but that he has to make his new relationship work - and not our marriage. The last time we were face to face I asked him if he knew what he was doing as we are preparing for divorce, and he said no and that he was not especially happy, was very affectionate towards me. Since then he has become cold again, saying that he is just in grief because his marriage has failed. Do you thing his behaviour is that of someone playing mind games? Or someone genuinely confused?