Well, it's been 6 months since I broke up my relationship and I thought I'd never get over him (weirdo or not!) but I did and have moved on with a vengeance!
I had a coffee date last week that made me feel great and also made me realise how much I LOVE being single. I went to my parents place for the w/end. On the way, I picked up one of my parents friends', spent a bit of time with her (and truly learned the value of her. She is a gorgeous woman), then we went and picked up my older brother.
Well, what a journey! We laughed for 2 hours, the 3 of us. I had a ball.
The w/end was great.
I have picked up the shattered pieces of my life, glued them back 2gether and got on with it. Without he who I thought I didn't want to live without.
Forget it.
If you chose not to be with someone, move on.
If they chose not to be with u, do the same.
Spend some single time in your life. It's fantastic and I can't see myself getting involved with anyone else for a very long time. I love that I can do what I want, when I want, with whom I want. The only restrictions in my life are those that I place on myself.
YOU CAN DO IT TOO. Try it. U just may like it.
__________________
KGB
Last edited by LoveShack.org Moderator; 21st November 2008 at 12:09 PM..
I've actually pinned this thread, because I think it's the most wonderfully positive thing I've seen on here for ages!
Please one and all, feel free to add, but make it positive, if only to show those who come here desperate, wounded and forlorn, that Hope Springs Eternal, and there is Joy in Life, after the break !
__________________ The first 'hello' contains the echoes of the last 'goodbye'.
I remember my life before my ex and what a great lot of fun it was to be single then, too - I hardly even had any dates! I want to make it back to where you are now... congrats
I love that I can do what I want, when I want, with whom I want. The only restrictions in my life
Great stuff, KGB. Very pleased to hear that you are smelling the roses - if, in actual fact, they do grow down under.
But don't overcompensate by labelling all relationships as "restrictive." The whole can be a lot more than the sum of its parts. As you go through life with a smile, think about keeping your heart open. Compromise isn't a dirty word, and it doesn't have to cramp your style.
Congratulations on having your thread pinned. That's actually a dream of mine.
Single life is not that bad, in fact it is better than that, it can be GREAT!
It is great to be in a great relationship but awful to be in a bad one! I have just got out of a detructive relationship and even though I get meloncholy (SP) at times, my life is stress free and I can do as I please, when I please!
I've been out and about too! No thoughts spend on ex or hurting, really. Life holds many problems but also many wonderful experiences! Let's not forget that!
I too love being single! I don’t have children so for me there is so much freedom. I get to make all the decisions for my time—I can stay out late, stay in, visit my friends and my family, work out, work late, take a class, flirt, watch movies, etc., etc., etc., every time that I want.
I also find that am more open to new opportunities like meeting people and trying things.
It felt good today, usually every friday was "our day" together. It was weird after work today, i just walked for like 45 minutes because i felt like it, went to the store to the mall because I felt like it, now im home just relaxing because I feel like it. Doesn't feel that bad having the freedom to do and feel what i want.
Well, it's been 6 months since I broke up my relationship and I thought I'd never get over him (weirdo or not!) but I did and have moved on with a vengeance! I had a coffee date last week that made me feel great and also made me realise how much I LOVE being single. I went to my parents place for the w/end. On the way, I picked up one of my parents friends', spent a bit of time with her (and truly learned the value of her. She is a gorgeous woman), then we went and picked up my older brother. Well, what a journey! We laughed for 2 hours, the 3 of us. I had a ball. The w/end was great.
I have picked up the shattered pieces of my life, glued them back 2gether and got on with it. Without he who I thought I didn't want to live without. Forget it. If you chose not to be with someone, move on. If they chose not to be with u, do the same. Spend some single time in your life. It's fantastic and I can't see myself getting involved with anyone else for a very long time. I love that I can do what I want, when I want, with whom I want. The only restrictions in my life are those that I place on myself. YOU CAN DO IT TOO. Try it. U just may like it.
I've been saying that for a looong time.. but never got 'pinned' for it..
I love to be single.. I love the freedom..
I just can't see myself with anyone.. I'm just too selfish.. It's all about me now.. and I'm loving it..
__________________ "Marriage is a great institution, but I'm not ready for an institution yet" - Mae West
First off and most importantly...Lizzie I love that top It would drive me crazy on a date.
Second off....congrats on getting pinned...when I first saw it I was shocked as I see a very scuttle hand by moderators here and I am actually glad they pinned something positive in 'coping' for people down and out to read on. Sometimes people just need a positive message.
Personally I see everything you have shared and have realized....but boy is it hard to get out of codependent/relationship mode.
Think my hardest road to 'recovery' is finding other singles with similar interests as mine to be friends with. To enjoy the single life. But time will tell and you can only keep moving forward
It happens for all of us. We move on eventually. It does get better, and after a while, you wonder what you ever saw in the person that "shattered your heart".
You soon discover that maybe the grass was greener on the single side. Hobbies and interests come back to you that were neglected before. All of the sudden you find yourself feeling.. individual. Your own person that has your own thing going on.
I'm done shaping myself into something to fit someone else. I get to be me, warts and all and I already have friends and family that accept me for exactly who I am. That's more than I could ever ask for and I am truly grateful for it.
__________________
Life in the so called space age...
I do try to be positive and love life. Today I was thinking one of the nice things about being single, is not listening to my boyfriend eating - he had breathing problems due to a broken nose and my God he could make some noise when he was chomping away - used to drive me crazy.
Please note: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice. If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local law enforcement agency or emergency number.
"Marriage is a great institution, but I'm not ready for an institution yet" - Mae West
It would drive me crazy on a date.
If this is newfound strenth or if it is rediscovered - don't forget it.
Linear Mode
