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Old 7th September 2008, 3:42 AM   #1
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Do you smoke and if so does it effect your dating/relationship?

Do you smoke and if so does it effect your dating/relationship?

When your dating and the other sex finds out are they turned off? Or care at all?

Personally would prefer to meet someone who doesn't, mainly because I am allergic and can't breath around it. But also the smell and kissing a smoker is just plain gross.
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Old 7th September 2008, 3:46 AM   #2
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I smoke sproadically- and I hide it.
I brush and rinse with hydrogen peroxide... no one ever knows I am a smoker unless I light up.
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Old 7th September 2008, 3:48 AM   #3
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I'm sure the smell in your hair and clothes would still be noticeable.
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Old 7th September 2008, 12:51 PM   #4
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I smoke sproadically- and I hide it.
I brush and rinse with hydrogen peroxide... no one ever knows I am a smoker unless I light up.
Believe me non-smokers around you can definitely tell you have been smoking.

I once dated someone who lied he's not a smoker, and would go through all that hydrogen peroxide thing before meeting up with me, I dumped him soon after I realized he's a smoker.

I would never date a smoker. Infact, I hear men who smokes a lot are likely to have erectile dysfunction.
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Old 7th September 2008, 2:07 PM   #5
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Tomorrow it will be one year since I quit smoking. I smoked for over 25 years, so it was a big deal to quit. I can't date smokers- I am not judgmental about it, because I totally understand why people do it, but I cannot be around it.
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Old 7th September 2008, 2:13 PM   #6
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Do you smoke and if so does it effect your dating/relationship?

When your dating and the other sex finds out are they turned off? Or care at all?

Personally would prefer to meet someone who doesn't, mainly because I am allergic and can't breath around it. But also the smell and kissing a smoker is just plain gross.
It doesn't affect my dating or relationships...because it's a deal breaker for me.
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Old 7th September 2008, 2:25 PM   #7
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Tomorrow it will be one year since I quit smoking. I smoked for over 25 years, so it was a big deal to quit. I can't date smokers- I am not judgmental about it, because I totally understand why people do it, but I cannot be around it.
Congratulations on your quitting smoking after 25 years. You gave yourself a ticket to a longer life.

I think smoking is a deal breaker for a LOT of people. Kissing an ash tray is not most people's idea of a grand evening.
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Old 7th September 2008, 2:26 PM   #8
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Do you smoke and if so does it effect your dating/relationship?

When your dating and the other sex finds out are they turned off? Or care at all?

Personally would prefer to meet someone who doesn't, mainly because I am allergic and can't breath around it. But also the smell and kissing a smoker is just plain gross.

I do not smoke, and I would NEVER date a woman who did.
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Old 7th September 2008, 2:32 PM   #9
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yes i smoke.

i need to quit.

my smoking is designed to keep men at bay...

ooohie... ya, can you see i'm in conflict with myself?

that protective barrier? must i get rid of it? grrrr

ya, i need to quit...
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Old 7th September 2008, 2:36 PM   #10
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I smoked for 12 years before quitting - it was very hard to quit, but I had to. My Dad died of lung cancer 2 years ago this October.

My S/O continued to smoke for a few months after I quit, but I am convinced my reaction to his smoking nmotivated him to quit - I wouldn't kiss him after he smoked and insisted that he change at least his shirt after indulging in a cigarette. I also made him smoke outside of the house, not just on the back porch - outside. I think after having to go to all that trouble to enjoy a cigarette he finally relented and quit himself. Thank God.
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Old 7th September 2008, 2:45 PM   #11
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I've never smoked but have dated/was married to assorted men who enjoyed the odd cigar with the boys. Beyond that, I couldn't date a consistent and/or heavy smoker, especially one who insists on smoking indoors. The odd cigarette with a drink, possibly, probably not, since it would concern me that it might become an addictive habit.
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Old 7th September 2008, 2:48 PM   #12
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Thumbs up

Blind Otter and Citizen67:

Wow, congratulations you guys, such a big step you have taken and successfully accomplished. All best best in your new smoke free life!
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Old 7th September 2008, 2:52 PM   #13
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My ex was a smoker. I didn't mind at first until he got me to smoke with him. I ditched him and I haven't picked up a cigarette since. So now everytime I see a cigarette, I'm reminded of him, and I get totally turned off. One of the best things to happen. And I will never consider dating another guy who smokes.
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Old 7th September 2008, 3:51 PM   #14
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I would never date a smoker. Infact, I hear men who smokes a lot are likely to have erectile dysfunction.

I only smoke when I drink or take Viagra.
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Old 7th September 2008, 6:43 PM   #15
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I generally don't date women that smoke but I have gone out with someone who was a sporadic smoker. She maybe smoked a couple a day at most and she knew I didn't like it so she never smoked when she was with me. At this level it did not bother me because I could not smell it in her hair clothes or home and she made sure it was not on her breath. I am sure it was tough on her and I feel for people that smoke, it is a bad addiction but I hate the smell and taste.
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