Cheating, Flirting, and JealousyBeing unfaithful to your significant other or suspect them of the same? Can't stand the way they flirt? Jealous? Discuss your experiences here.
Always challenge your mate's bad behaviour.... always.
If you don't- you set the precedence that you can be walked all over.
Unless you want to be in a submissive role (some guys like that and it's okay)....
Reward the good behaviour....but never reward the bad behaviour.
Yes- stick up for yourself.... I lovingly appreciate that quality in a guy.
Always challenge your mate's bad behaviour.... always.
If you don't- you set the precedence that you can be walked all over.
Unless you want to be in a submissive role (some guys like that and it's okay)....
Reward the good behaviour....but never reward the bad behaviour.
Yes- stick up for yourself.... I lovingly appreciate that quality in a guy.
Yes, but sticking up for yourself does not mean being a jerk! Set reasonable limits, be clear about them, and then be firm about sticking to them. When the other person tries to push them:
1) Take a deep breath, calm yourself down, and don't talk about you.
2) Listen and try to understand until they are done talking.
3) Say, "I understand you... (repeat what they told you in #1). Am I correct in understanding you?"
4) If necessary, repeat from #2.
5) If appropriate, express sympathy for their position and/or regret that you cannot accomodate it.
6) Now you can finally talk about you. Simply restate your limits gently but firmly.
5) Repeat from #1 as many times as necessary.
Eventually, the other person will get the point that you are not going to let yourself be pushed around and you aren't goint to let them drag you into an argument, a fight, or a bunch of drama about it either.
Yes, but sticking up for yourself does not mean being a jerk! Set reasonable limits, be clear about them, and then be firm about sticking to them. When the other person tries to push them:
1) Take a deep breath, calm yourself down, and don't talk about you.
2) Listen and try to understand until they are done talking.
3) Say, "I understand you... (repeat what they told you in #1). Am I correct in understanding you?"
4) If necessary, repeat from #2.
5) If appropriate, express sympathy for their position and/or regret that you cannot accomodate it.
6) Now you can finally talk about you. Simply restate your limits gently but firmly.
5) Repeat from #1 as many times as necessary.
Eventually, the other person will get the point that you are not going to let yourself be pushed around and you aren't goint to let them drag you into an argument, a fight, or a bunch of drama about it either.
Wow, such a thorough answer. He's really getting his money's worth on this one.
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