What does it mean when a man texts you after hanging out "I had a good time with you"
I am 25 he is 32. We met on a dating site and already saw each other 3 times this week. We are both still dating others, well he is I am still looking for th sake f not getting rejection. His last relationship and my last relationship was horrible, she treated him bad and my ex treated me bad. He and I discussed taking it slow and seeing where it leads but we do know that we enjoy spending time with each other. He also told me he has his guard up.
We have not gone out on a "real" date. We just watch movies at my apartment and he sleeps over. So after he left today about an hour later he texts me "I had a good time with you". I responded to him via text me too, "i can't wait to see you again" he did not respond. When I read the message I thought it was good but after I got no response then I felt like it was bad. What do you think he meant or am I reading way too much into it?
1. Good luck getting him to break out of the "Im coming over for a movie" pattern I doubt he'll ever make the effort to take you out on a proper date, you are making it way too easy for him.
2. He told you he wants to take is slow you agreed and discussed with him and then you tell him via text "I can't wait to see you again" that spells pressure for him, that does not say I am taking it slow. You might turn him off if you pressure him
Are you guys intimate yet?
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What do you think he meant or am I reading way too much into it?
I have to say, reading way too much into this. I've done it and my ex's have done it. To me, I would see your response as responding to my txt. More like a "Me too."
Next time, don't have him sleep over. Make an effort to have him take you out on a proper date. Having him over places the risk that you guys end up sleeping together.
1. Good luck getting him to break out of the "Im coming over for a movie" pattern I doubt he'll ever make the effort to take you out on a proper date, you are making it way too easy for him.
Me and my girlfriend started out this way... just going to eachother's places for movies. That went on for the first few dates, but now I take her out all the time. I am not sure about the sleeping over thing though. I didn't sleep over in the beginning.
He didn't text back when you texted "I can't wait to see you" because it's just a sex thing to him. Nothing else. And that's that.
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Originally Posted by Hopelessly_Devoted
I am 25 he is 32. We met on a dating site and already saw each other 3 times this week. We are both still dating others, well he is I am still looking for th sake f not getting rejection. His last relationship and my last relationship was horrible, she treated him bad and my ex treated me bad. He and I discussed taking it slow and seeing where it leads but we do know that we enjoy spending time with each other. He also told me he has his guard up.
We have not gone out on a "real" date. We just watch movies at my apartment and he sleeps over. So after he left today about an hour later he texts me "I had a good time with you". I responded to him via text me too, "i can't wait to see you again" he did not respond. When I read the message I thought it was good but after I got no response then I felt like it was bad. What do you think he meant or am I reading way too much into it?
A guy might text something like he did just to be nice, and it is only a sex thing. If he was into you completely, he would not have ignored your last text.
Yes, "I had a good time last night" is way different than "I can't wait to see you again" which is what boyfriends say to their girlfriends and vice versa. He backed off when you said a "we are together" type statement.
At least you know now so you don't get too emotionally invested and can take it for what it is.
er did have sex, i am not emotianlly invested into him at all..but he is good...i needed it after 11 years of being in a relationship with one guy...then i saw his smile and i weakend...but i needed it...i just don't want to get hurt...like if i call him fr some of his loiving and he rejects me!
Yes, "I had a good time last night" is way different than "I can't wait to see you again" which is what boyfriends say to their girlfriends and vice versa. He backed off when you said a "we are together" type statement.
At least you know now so you don't get too emotionally invested and can take it for what it is.
Wait a minute... if he texts her she has to text him back or she isn't into him, amd when she texts him back he has to text her back or he isn't into her, and when she gets his text she has to text him back again or???
Unless you two want to spend the rest of your lives texting each other, someone is going to stop responding sometime. He said he had a good time and she said she was looking forward to doing it again... he reached out, she reciprocated, things are relatively balanced, the last communication was a statement that did not require a response... where is the problem here?
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